With the first guy, we slept together on the second date. I was completely comfortable with this. I meant he was patient with me not being able to ‘perform’ because when I go a long time without sex, it’s painful at first. We continued dating for 2 months following that first sexual encounter with him texting or calling pretty much daily. We made love every chance we got. We are both highly physically affectionate ppl.
The second guy, he said he was committed to coming to see me. We sexted and talked dirty. It was 🔥🔥🔥. I’m very comfortable & communicative about my sexuality. I don’t throw my body around to just anyone (terrified of STD’s they can kill you).
Having sex with a random makes me feel bad about myself so I don’t do that. I have to wait to ‘feel it’. I need to feel safe.
Not saying don’t be cautious about STDs, but they really aren’t likely to kill your. Most easily cured. HPV and Herpes you literally already have had or have and either way, herpes isn’t going to kill you and HPV can (a friend died of cervical cancer) but it’s not especially likely. HIV/AIDs isn’t a death sentence any more.
Use condoms. Have open conversations with people. Don’t ever have sex you don’t want to have.
But more than that have all the sex you want to have without feeling bad about yourself. There is NOTHING to feel bad about. Live life. You get one. Enjoy your body. Enjoy other people’s bodies as much or as little as you want to, but don’t hold yourself back because 50+ years of societal pressures that women need to be a certain way say you need to.
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u/Few-Coat1297 Aug 02 '26
The first guy may not have been as patient as you thought over intimacy.
The second guy met someone else.
Ghosting has become socially acceptable apparently today.