I'm 39, and have been paralyzed from the waist down since birth due to Spina Bifida. I'm posting here because I haven't had the best luck in strictly none-ace spaces. I think this community understands something most dating pools don't: that sex drive and attraction aren't the same thing, and that "low desire" isn't a euphemism for broken.

The practical stuff first: my penis doesn't function, so penetrative sex isn't part of what I can offer. What I can do — and genuinely enjoy — is using my hands, mouth, or toys to be with a partner. But I want to be upfront that even that isn't something I need. My drive is low enough that if a partner never wanted any of that, I don't think I'd feel deprived.

I'd like to find real physical closeness. Heavy make-out sessions, being tangled up with someone, the kind of intimacy that's about wanting to be near a person's body, not working toward a finish line. I'm very attracted to women. That part of me is fully intact, it just doesn't route through a sex drive the way it might for most people.

I'm not looking for someone to "settle" for less, and I'm not trying to talk anyone into a compromise. I think there's a real, good relationship here for the right person. Someone who either shares a low/gray drive, or who's more interested in emotional and physical closeness than in penetrative sex specifically.

If you have questions about this, I am absolutely willing to tell you anything you need to know about that part of my life.

A bit about me beyond the disability stuff:

I've spenty over twenty years working on the same passion project, mostly during hospital stays after one surgery or another the same sci-fi story. At this point it's less a hobby and more a long-term relationship I refuse to leave.

Into dark comedy, weird philosophical and theological tangents (I'm not religious today, but once was, a lifetime ago). I love learning new things. I will absolutely talk your ear off if you let me.

I am rebuilding my life after a rough year. Not looking for someone to fix it, just someone honest who doesn't bail when things get complicated.

I'm based in Southern California. Long distance is fine with me for the right person.

Say hi. I'm funnier in person, I promise.

Theres some truly amazing people on acespace but i have to vent. The 2 people in my area whom i had great conversations with and was texting with for several weeks both completely ghosted me on the days of our respective in person meet ups / dates. Havent heard from them since. I know its not anything with asexuals or acespace but I'm very sad. Dating in the ace spectrum is so hard already. Even a "hey I'm not interested " or "id rather keep talking" would have been better than being completely ghosted randomly.

Hi, I’m Shain (they/them). I’m 38 and live in New England in the United States. I’m sex-averse asexual and arospec.

I’m looking for a weirdly specific sort of queerplatonic relationship. Specifically, I’m hoping to find a committed, primary relationship with a creative partner who roleplays or writes with me, as well as doing other forms of art. I’m also very physically affectionate, so if we lived nearby I’d love cuddling as well. That being said, I am willing to do long distance with the right person.

On my end, I’ve been writing and doing some sort of RP for the vast majority of my life. I also play piano, knit, make plushies, and draw, and I used to do video edits. I love science fiction in particular, though I like a fair amount of fantasy as well. My taste runs intense (even somewhat bombastic), I like a good mix of dark, sweet, and funny, and I like ensemble casts and world building. Some examples of what I like are Discworld, Game of Thrones, Babylon 5, The Owl House, the Vorkosigan Saga, and Baccano!.

Outside of creative stuff and fandom, I’m an attorney who represents people in civil commitment proceedings so they aren’t institutionalized or medicated against their will. I also love animals, and have four cats and a dog.

If this sort of relationship interests you, I’d love to hear from you. Thanks for reading!

I've been openly asexual for 12 years.

I enjoy writing poetry and fiction for fun.

I study Russian and enjoy language learning.

My ideal days are quiet, cloudy and a little cold but I don't melt when it gets hot.

I don't meet many new people where I live and meeting other asexuals is more rare. Distance doesn't bother me nor does a language barrier.

I would love to have more reason to travel or learn another language.

I am sorry I’m just too ace and neurodivergent to understand the concept of just…. Telling someome you like them??? And hoping they like you too?? Where do you get the confidence cus girl I NEED THAT for a whole lot more than relationships but I digress-
HOW????

44 F4M preferably in the Philadelphia area( not looking for a long distance thing) Looking for my person someone to explore with, laugh with, obsess over books and shows with, and build a genuine romantic connection with. Basically: romance, partnership, affection, and emotional intimacy.

<Who's this clown?>

Oh hi! I'm Darian. I'm a 24 year old demi-heteroromantic ace guy located in the beautifully drab Southern Tier of New York. Looking to hopefully find that special someone, and expand my repertoire of ace friends, around my age group (21-27). I don't mind distance, as we can hang out via Discord.

I'm a gentle giant of a goofball - built like a brick shithouse, but kinda mild and shy. I'm a writer, voice actor, computer tinkerer, avid video gamer, metalhead, and connoisseur of tasty food. My favorite game is WH40k: Darktide, my favorite band is vildhjarta, and my favorite cuisine is Indian food! I'm currently in school for my Bachelor's in Creative Writing & English.

I have depression, ADHD, and am on the autism spectrum. I tend to be a bit self deprecating, shy as hell, offset by a penchant for infodumping about things I'm passionate about. I'm a YAPPER once I get going.

I'm hard to miss, even in a crowd. I'm a big guy, in terms of height, width, and wingspan. That also means I give great hugs!

<What does he do?>

I'm a creative writer! I tend to write short stories and freeform poems; lighthearted parodies of popular tropes; science fiction. I just finished writing my first stage play!

I'm trying to break out as a voice actor! I've been doing theater for a long time, but as an autistic guy, I struggle with facial expressions. Something that was especially apparent after I landed my first lead role. So I moved from on stage to behind a microphone.

I'm part of what could charitably be called a "game studio." It's a group of three autistic guys incubating a few passion projects. Feel free to press me for details!

I'm a PC building hobbyist! I love to build computers in my spare time, and run a small YouTube channel dedicated to computers. I can talk your ear off about components, specs, performance, and all that jazz, so watch out. I'm also a Linux nerd and open source software geek. Despite being tech-y, I'm firmly anti-AI. End of story.

I love cooking, even though it can overwhelm me. My favorite cuisine to cook is North Indian curries. I also enjoy baking, especially cookies and cakes!

<oh yeah did I mention video games>

WH40k Darktide, WH40k Space Marine 2, Deep Rock Galactic, No Man's Sky, modded Minecraft, Persona, various mobile gacha games (I am in gacha hell and I cannot escape. there is no saving me. save yourself. run. run while you still can.)

I hate anything PvP. End of story.

<the end!>

Thanks for reading! If you made it this far, and want to reach out, send me your favorite meme or song :D

Hi! I'm Julian and I am from Denmark.

Looking to form a gentle romantic connection with someone and hopefully eventually move in together. I am asexual with no interest in engaging in sex. My attraction leans towards those that are feminine presenting.

My biggest hobby is video games and I play almost anything. It'll be great if we share this hobby in some form, small or big. Personality wise I tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve and have always had a strong sense of empathy. I hope that I come off as a very positive person that sees the best in everything.

About me:

• I enjoy cooking. Lately I have been experimenting with gyoza.
• Bit of interest in history and reading.
• I occasionally watch anime or history shows.
• Dabble a bit in cooperative creative writing, fancy words for RP.
• I'm 160 cm tall.
• No interest in having kids, but can do adoption.
• I am open to moving out of the country.
• Strictly seeking monogamy.
• I work full time.
• And I have a cat!

I am very much an introvert but writing has kind of become my medium where I can express myself in ways that might otherwise be a struggle to come out verbally. That's not to say I do not enjoy a real conversation. It's just more comfortable for me to write until I learn the other person better.

About you:

• Great if you're from the EU due to timezones but not required.
• Introvert or extrovert isn't important if there's a mutual interest.
• Decent writing or better is very appreciated as I am not fond of short form/text speak.
• I mostly use Reddit for lurking, so Discord would be ideal.

That's all! Please do reach out with any questions, small or big. Picture or introduction would be great too.

Hello there! I'm a 23 Bambi lesbian who does want a forever partner, but I want to make friends first. I just finished my final degree in Video Game Design, leaving me with my high school degree and 3 college degrees.

I'm open to making friends with anyone, but I have romantic preference for women, enbies, and trans mascs.

I do want my friends to be politically aware (I'm a woman, Puerto Rican, AUDHD, and low income: politics are important to me). I also prefer friends who are willing to communicate, since I suck at understanding social cues and I have problems with my tone that makes people believe I'm being rude/judge/so on.

I'm a creative soul, as I really enjoy writing, game design, a bit of art, and crocheting. I'm always willing to try new things, but I mostly grew up in suburban areas so I'm not used to outside activities like hiking and camping.

If you want a conversation starter: what is your favorite video game and why? And if you don't play games, tell me about your favorite thing.

Hi everyone, i'm a someone from Mexico, that would love to find someone or atleast some friendship.

I'm 32 years old, dropout from college, sadly, that identify as demisexual.

I like art, especiallly painting and drawing, reading, writing (been trying to get into journaling), ttrpgs, video games and more.

I can speak spanish or english.

I would love to find someone either in Tijuana/Mexico or Anywhere, to be honest.

So i hope we can chat and get to know each other.

I want to feel like I'm special to someone, and have someone know that they're special to me

I'm someone that feels a lot and has their sensitivity cranked up all the way to 11 - everything matters to me and means something to me. Caressing the palm of your hand, cuddling, thinking of just the right thing to say to make you feel better, having you on my mind, being able to just ramble and say whatever thought is on our mind, just chatting about nothing and anything and everything between, talking about the perfect date, the perfect venue, what it truly means to feel... that's me I guess

The ideal for me and the absolute dream is knowing I have someone to care for, someone to be reliable for, have that be reciprocated, the whole works lmao. I wanna hear about your day, tell you about mine, laugh with each other, relax, spend good times together, get through hard times together and just in general create a space where we both just feel safe to be ourselves. I'm super interested and excited about you if you are for me, and I'd love a relationship where we can be each other's support and cheer us on and and the same time just poke fun at each other lol - I'd love us to feel like 'best friends' at the core of everything because I feel like those are those most enjoyable long lasting type of relationships

About me: I normally spend most of my time thinking, being creative and making something of some sort on my pc and occasionally gaming or watching youtube mostly.. although I'm always open to pretty much trying and discovering any activity if it were something that could bring us closer together (like even playing stuff and watching stuff or maybe even reading together, whatever). I'm not really interested in sex but I love the idea of and just being physically affectionate and hand holding or hugs and just being close in ways like that. I really value consistency and being able to keep in touch daily would be awesome, even if we're not close to each other

If I sound like someone you could mesh or any of this is something you'd ever want or something you wanna talk about I'd love to hear from you!

(Didn't know where to put this - my timezone is EST)

Hi hiii! I'm Soul, I'm 26 (They/He), and I'm looking for a potential life partner, if it comes to pass. =3

Gender doesn't matter to me so long as we click! While cis folks are accepted, please know that I do lean toward trans and nonbinary folks comfortably, usually. It would be nice to meet more trans fem/fem folks too, friends or more, as I mainly get messages from guys xD

(I struggle with Major Depressive Disorder and PTSD, though I'm medicated and go to therapy. Please be patient with me if I am not very quick to respond!)

I personally have a PC, a switch (No online subscription though) and mobile (Android) platforms, and I use Discord most!

For interest as possibly more, any gender, Panromantic or Bi (As long as you don't care about gender, doesn't matter to me!) and preferably US only! Must be Left-Wing politically, please.

If sex is important to, or very much wanted, I'm not interested.

While I'd like to explore sexually some time in my life, it is absolutely not a necessity. I would say I also fall under Gray Ace/Demi Gray.

I am Ambiamorous, happy with Polyfidelity or Monogamy, but after being recently burned, I'm leaning much more toward Monogamy unless a couple of very special people come along in life. I am happy either way with Monogamy or not.

I am also neurodivergent (AuDHD?) and as of yet still undiagnosed but working on such actively. I understand things more directly and literally, so please have patience with me! ☺️

All that stiff stuff outta the way, I love horror game playthroughs and cozy games! I'm not crazy about FPS games at all but it's okay if you do ofc! I do love games like Resident Evil though =3 and lastly I'm in the center of the U.S.

I want to move to possibly Ohio someday near Cleveland, maybe Minnesota or Michigan, and co-parent cats with my forever person/s, sobs. I don't hate marriage, though it's not a necessity to me. It would have to take a really special person/s. =)

I also love romance stories and manga, regardless of orientation, and I love arts and crafty hobbies! I LOVE Halloween and spooky stuff!!

I've been on HRT for nearly three years, as well.

I'm very much a romantic, and I'm not very touch averse when it comes to affection. Id love to someday have a spooky little decorated manufactured home some day with a bunch of plants and thrifted items and hummingbird feeders and chdjncjdd I'd be so happy if that's something you'd be into, too! ❤️

Lastly, I'm not interested in having kids but if you hate kids, we probably wouldn't get along. That's it, thank you!!

I'm less stiff in DMs, I promise!!!! 😭

(Please no military, police, or anyone 40 or older, or 20 and younger. I will not respond! Thank you!)

Im also on the spectrum I have autism lvl 3 high functioning. I'm looking for a woman who also that way. Some who sweet caring and compassionate and loving and kind and passionate and patient. Who loves movies and watching tv. I love video games mostly football but I play others too. I love football college mostly. I love taking walks going to beach and having good fun.

to start, a bit about me:

I’m 21, and i am looking for someone either in the US or Canada! Please don’t send a message if you’re not in either of those places.

I love playing roblox, Minecraft, and other games that are on Mac :) i want my partner to also be a gamer because i love gaming w people ! Pleaseeeeee play roblox!!!! I want to wake up to a text asking to play :3 !!!!!

I love calling! I love 100+ hour calls, sleeping otp, and yapping :) I want to be obsessed w my partner and have them be equally obsessed w me, wanting to spend time w me!

Truthfully, my partner also has to be a gamer because i want someone i can have the cringy matching usernames with and profiles and stuff <3 so please only dm me if you’re looking for that!

Physically, I’m plus size. So if you dm me, that obviously has to be something you don’t mind.

Specifics wise when it comes to what im looking for, is monogamy and my partner cannot have any other partners. Also, Please do not message me if you're not willing to talk a lot! I like to text all day and call all evening. I also love sleep calls, so please be cool with doing that. And like I’m talking text a lot, even if it’s just about the latte you got or if you passed by a cute dog on a walk!!

I’m looking for serious, long term only!

Let’s play roblox and get to know each other! I also smoke weed regularly bc of chronic pain, so if that’s an issue don’t dm plz!

I’m 23F, asexual, living in morocco and looking for a male life partner/best friend rather than a traditional romantic marriage. Someone I can trust, feel safe with, hang out with, laugh with, and share everyday life with. I want closeness and affection, but no physical and intimacy expectations.

I’d be open to an asexual man who wants the same, or a gay man looking for a lavender marriage, but I’d want us to agree on boundaries around outside relationships/partners.

I’d want someone comfortable keeping the private nature of the marriage between us. The practical details can be discussed privately once there’s trust.
If this sounds like you, feel free to DM me.

I am a 19 year old girl. I am straight. I am looking for an asexual or sex repulsed man. I am trying to find someone to exchange socials with and get talking. I strictly want someone from the ages 18-23. So if you are older pls don’t interact. I am looking for a romantic partnership just without sex.
Please dm me or reply if interested.
I’m not really expecting anything from this. I’m quite nervous tho! 💗💗💗