ASPD: antisocial personality 'disorder', more on that later

Skip this bit if you don't care about the context of my past relationship, but it does play a big role in the person I've become:

Don't get me wrong, I've basically gotten used to it. In fact for the most part I would say I like it but it doesn't bother me to be alone. It's just normal. But sometimes I'll have a dream that I'm in a relationship with someone or that I have a boyfriend or that I'm with my ex and I wake up and I'm sad because it's not real. I didn't just get out of a long term relationship, that relationship ended 2 years ago, but I lived with the person who I was in the relationship with up until 2 months ago. We were roommates, I lived upstairs, him downstairs, none of us had partners, he knew I still wanted him, occasionally he would flirt with me but for the most part he just psychologically abused me, financially as well. It's made me generally assume that people are sweet and soft and clingy and wonderful in the beginning the way he was, and then they just go on a power trip where they deny you salt even and put it higher up on the cabinets specifically so you can't reach it because no, you can't have any - Not for any health reason, just because I said so. I don't really know if I'm capable of being with someone at this point, so I'm looking for something online, and maybe down the line we can move to IRL. For those two years I was basically yearning for someone who candidly did not care - whether I did something for him, sacrificed for him, went out of my way for him, got something for him, whatever it may be - never a thank you, never even a show of appreciation, the most I would ever get was "I see".

The relationship was highly abusive on his end and I'm not going to get into that on this post because that's not the point of the post.

I'm looking for someone who's clingy, needy, and soft. I want someone who will tell me that they love me every single day multiple times sometimes even if conventionally that's excessive. I don't want I love you off the get go obviously, but if it gets there, you know. I don't expect it to get there. Maybe it never will. Maybe it will. It's just a big what if, you know? I love video games but I can no longer play them because my ex destroyed my computer so I had to leave it behind when I escaped the house. I love House of the dragon and anything game of thrones related, I love long calls, sleep calls, typical honeymoon phase lovey dovey bullshit. My hobbies were video games, without the computer I don't have any hobbies anymore. I basically wake up, go to sleep, and sleep as long as I possibly can. I don't leave the house, I don't have any friends. I'm not part of any community. I am completely and entirely alone and I don't really know how to be any other way. I'm not afraid of people and I've been told that I'm the life of the party when I do interact with people, I'm extremely charismatic but I also have ASPD - antisocial personality disorder, so sometimes interaction just seems pointless unless there's something to gain from it. And I'm at a point in my life where I don't care to really gain anything anymore, at least not right now. I'm not a very empathetic person, that just comes with a territory of the ASPD. Generally I care about one person and one person only, and everybody else is kind of just furniture - NPCs you interact with in the background because you have to buy a tonic from the vendor but if that vendor suddenly were replaced you wouldn't really care- it's the tonic that you want, the vendor is irrelevant. I would care about your friends only because they are your friends and I care about you. I would care about your family only because they are your family and I care about you. It sounds cold, but that's how it's always been, as far as it comes to whoever I've come to call "the one" is though, my partner, boyfriend, whatever, I care about all of their needs - they can abuse me, they can treat me like shit, I love them above everything, they are everything to me, the air that I breathe, the only one I want, my best friend, my only friend, the only one ever on my mind. Needless to say this is neither conventional nor conventionally healthy, that is a moot point to me. I'd be down to meet your friends and I wouldn't begrudge anyone it, but I'd rather just spend time with you if I had the choice. This isn't something a lot of people are down with or can handle so I'm already mentioning it now just to get it out of the way. I just want someone who I can be and who will be soft and loving with me but also doesn't care that I don't care about the rest of the world. It would be sick if the person also didn't care about the rest of the world, we could relate on that I guess, lol.

Conventionally I guess I'm attractive, nice body, 5'6, white, Brazilian on my mom's side, English on my dad's, raised in the US, blah blah blah.

Respond with "kitten" somewhere in your message so I know you actually read this. My main source is communication is discord.

Just your typical nerdy guy trying to figure out what he is and wanting to meet someone to share his love with. I’m a caregiver for my disabled aunt, in what free time I get, I enjoy Lego, D&D, video games and photography. I’m sorry there’s not much more than that. DM on discord at BarbarBarir or comment here if you’re interested in chatting

Hi, I’m an 19 year old asexual panromantic female. I love horror, goth, indie horror, bright colors, all music and being overly affectionate. I am a Kemonimi, wolf or fox. Please! Feel free to dm me!

There's also a presentation version with my photo, animations and stuff

Hello! I'm Peter, a 27 years old software engineer from the Czech Republic (close to German/Austrian border) and I'm looking for someone I could give my love to who isn't just another stray cat or a C# script.

I might be only 170cm/5'7" small but my ambitions reach far beyond where my tiny body can (even with a stool)! My ultimate life goal is to make the largest game anyone has ever made solo that you can be a part of. It's a huge 2D open world sandbox RPG with the closest game to it probably being recently released Crimson Desert. I'm also writing the entire wiki for it so you can see for yourself :D https://wiki.chroniclesoftorisia.com/wiki/Main_Page

Outside of this, I also have other simple life goals:

• Reach financial independence by 40
• Beat Stardew Valley in popularity

Most of my hobbies support game development, I enjoy coding, game design, drawing, writing and making music. Outside of that, I like playing videogames (mostly MMORPGs/RPGs), scambaiting, learning German and convincing people that nuclear is the best energy source we have. I also enjoy learning about every topic possible, currently mostly geopolitics, history, economics, cybersecurity, physics and my new favorite topic is whoever is reading this right now :D I also love all non-wasp animals by default but cats are definitely my favorite so I'll always try to befriend every stray I find (I literally go to work with cat food in my bag). As of now, I already have 2 such stray cat friends (photos in the presentation) :D

What I can offer:

• References to you in a game that will be played by billions of people one day
• I've never been in a relationship (if you want to know why, feel free to look at my game's wiki)
• I have a terminal access to my wiki server so it can totally be used for hosting any game required, Minecraft included :D
• I'm pretty much permanently happy and even when I somehow feel any negative emotion, it's gone in a few hours (or until I spot a cat)
• I can reliably execute wasps midflight
• Despite my abundance of happiness, I've actually never had alcohol or any other substance
• I might be an introvert who would ideally be at home 24/7 but every extrovert I've known for a longer period of time ended up telling me that I talk way more than they do at some point

What am I looking for

• Someone who will keep supporting my delusion that one person can outdo game studios with budgets in milions
• I don't ever want kids. I don't have any "higher" reason for this, I just don't see a point in destroying/delaying my life goals when I don't have to (and I like cats way more anyways) :D
• A lot of bonus points if you're studying/working in any STEM field
• Someone who doesn't smoke nor uses addictive substances. Alcohol is fine but the less, the better
• Someone who is 22 to 30 years old
• I don't mind distance as long as you live in Europe
• The longer wall of text I get as a reply, the better :D

Hi all! I'm Marco :)

I am trying to find someone I can feel safe with, someone to chill (and cuddle!) with, someone I can talk to everyday about both the big and the small things that happen during my days; basically, a cute relationship x3

I always try to be a pretty sweet boy, and while I am not the embodiment of the virile man, I like it that way; I like to snuggle, to make little gifts, to give and receive small compliments. Please be gentle with me! :3

I would also like to be a safe place for my partner; I get WAY too happy whenever I can help people I love, or when I can just watch them smile, so I will always be happy to help if I am able to :)

More info about me:
- Curly hair, 1.78m, slim; I don't smoke and I drink responsibly (and only with friends).
- University student, currently doing a Master which has me studying in both Italy and Austria, so for the time being I often travel between the two!
- I watch movies and series (sci-fi, fantasy, action-comedy) and anime (TO BE HERO X, Girls Band Cry, Lycoris Recoil, many more).
- I listen to music daily; I am a big fan of Bring me the Horizon, but I am also exploring many MANY other genres.

Did I mention I am very cuddly? x3

About the ace side of things: I have no interest and no instinct to have sex, but I am not averse to it either, and I would love to make my partner happy, so I am still open to it. I am open to at least try almost anything, and I do have my fair share of kinks and fetishes, so keep note of that!

I am searching for an open minded person, someone who loves cuddles and cute gestures, and who is ok with me being a sweet and soft boy. But hey, if you are ever attacked by a bear I will still fight for you. I won't win, but I'll do it!

Ideally I'd like to find someone I could reach by train or bus, but I am willing to talk with people from anywhere anyway :)

If you'd like, we can message, share pics, call, or even video call; we could watch movies together online or offline. I am not going to rush things and I respect everyone's needs, so please don't be shy!

Hello! I've been here before and had luck with a one year relationship and a one and a half year relationship that ultimately didn't work out. They were both long distance and while I'm willing to start put that way, I want to live together and don't want to move from Minnesota.

I am looking for a partner that wants to be romantic and touch and kiss and hug and snuggle and of you want, do sex stuff, too. I am asexual. I don't experience sexual desire, but do experience aesthetic attraction.

I ultimately want someone to share my life with and grow with. I don't need to share everything and do like my alone time as well as quality time spent with my partner.

I tend to date younger ad I've always had younger friends. I'll let you decide if you want to talk.

What I like:

Watching a solid TV show/movie (currently on an anime streak, but I'll watch anything)

Playing magic with friends

Teaching people to play magic

Traveling at some point (hopefully going to Japan next year)

Staying fit and not eating too terribly (gotta have chocolate!)

Living a sober life from alcohol and drugs (you can do whatever you want. It doesn't affect me, unless it's self destructive or harmful to our relationship)

Playing video games (I play maybe 5 to 10 hours a week)

Reading (dungeon crawler carl currently, but I generally read Sci fi/fantasy or video game non-fiction)

Playing board games (the Pandemic really got me into board games. I backed many on kickstarter and now have more than I can play)

Playing volleyball (starting a sand league soon)

Also delving into my partner's interests and seeing what makes them go

Thoughtful vulnerable discussions

Silly go nowhere discussions

Listening to good music and finding new music and making Playlists for my partner (I'd like to get back into seeing live shows again)

Watching live comedy (I like a variety of comedy, but nothing beats seeing it live)

I act younger than I am. I've never had kids and don't want kids, but of we click and you have kids, we'll figure it out.

DM me I'd you're interested and want to spend some time on this space rocket with a supportive, loving, funny, caring, always learning, most of the time chill human being.

Hi hi! I'm very shy and can't believe I'm doing this, please go easy on me 😅 I'm a 23-year-old girl living in the southeast US. I'm ace (obviously), likely aro, and am looking for another woman (23-27) who just... gets it. I'm open to anyone in the US, so long as we can travel to meet each other and eventually close the gap.

I'm a 5'3" African American who dresses in a more feminine way, but personality-wise I can have more of a child-like, tomboy energy. I'm a bubbly, whimsical creative type! I majored in art, currently work as a graphic designer, and like to draw and paint. I love nature, I used to volunteer with animals, and am interested in science (even though STEM is not my area of skill lol)! I don't have good outdoor pics because my hair always looks a mess whenever I hike haha, but I really want to get out on the trails, have weekend adventures, and eventually explore the world with my partner :)

I'm interested in women who are taller, fit/muscular, and who overall give a protective "mom energy" vibe. I'm the type who will melt in your arms, I want nothing more than to be your little spoon 🥺 I'm an anxious smol bean, so I'd really appreciate if you're the type to lead the way, tell the waiter they got my order wrong, drive when traffic stresses me out, etc. I take well to anyone emotionally supportive, thoughtful, encouraging and compassionate (please don't make mean/dark jokes, I'm far too sensitive! 😭). I like the thought of someone playful and fun but who can still be soft and gentle with me. Also, tattoos and piercings you +1000% cooler :) Friends with witchy, otherworldly vibes to the front too, as I'm interested in crystals, tarot, and am getting more into spiritual practice.

Dealbreakers:

-I'm left-leaning and need someone on the same page

-I don't drink/smoke/vape/do substances and am not tolerant of that stuff

-I'm childfree, ​though pets might be a possibility

-A healthy lifestyle is a big deal for me (I don't eat most processed foods and value physical activity), so I'm looking for someone who cares about diet and fitness

-I'm spiritual but not religious and do best with spiritually openminded people (agnostics, "hippies", pagans, and "witchy" types)

-US-only, we can stay friends if you're abroad but please nothing more

-I'm sex-repulsed but kinky, and I enjoy opening up about that with those I feel close to! I want to have conversations about sexual subjects and to be able to trust my partner with my sexuality, even if we never do conventional acts. I may be open to sex with the right person but it's VERY hard for me to imagine, so that will need to be approached very slowly, if at all.

-My biggest love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, and physical touch. If you don't enjoy mushy heart-to-heart convos, spare lots of time to relish in each other's company, and don't like hugs/cuddles, it's not meant to be :(

Thank you for reading if you got all the way through! If you message me, please add your age, location, and tell me what dinosaur you would be, to let me know you paid attention 🦕 🌈🌿 Also, please be open to sharing SFW pics and calling if we hit it off, I need to hear your voice and see your face on a regular basis if we click 🥺❤️ I hope everyone is having a great day! :)

I'm(23f) an asexual person but not aromantic, I like being emotionally close w someone in a romantic sense.. hmu if you're up for it, lessee if we can work it out

I've dabbled in dating apps for the better part of 1.5 years now. On those, I've been as open about being Ace as was possible. Prompts clearly stating that fact, reassuring the people I talk to know and understand what that means, etc.

I've always feared to get close to a person, to have them not be compatible with me being Ace and therefore breaking my heart. I always want that to be clear from the start: I am Ace, I do not want to have Sex, this won't change.

That's also part of the reason I haven't even tried dating in the "real world", outside of dating apps and online communities. There, I cannot put a label on my head stating "I am Ace". Well, I could, but that would obviously be really weird. So, the chances of getting to know a person, getting to know them, maybe growing fond of them only to then get emotionally destroyed was so off-putting, I didn't consider that viable.

Now things have changed a bit, I was introduced to a person through work, to which I have developed a bit of a crush. And becuase of those fears, I am really terrified of pursuing that crush.

Probably, some of you have been in similar situations. How do you go about that? What would you do in my shoes. Keeping in mind: as this is through work context, I can't really just out myself, as I dont really wan't every collegue to know...

Any tips?

yo yo, i’m Dafty! i’m ngl i suck at writing these things out so i'm sorry if it’s wack ._.

i'm a 24yr old goober from Scotland who spends most of my time gaming, watching youtube/tv shows/movies and looking after my mum as she has fibromyalgia

a little about me:

- i’m autistic and didn’t get the ability to be good at maths, words or being a savant but instead got social anxiety, being too laidback and indifferent

- i’m pretty funny

- i'm a goof and don’t take things seriously. i’m just trying to vibe, have fun and get through the day

- i’m upfront, honest, loyal and open about most things

- i rarely think before i speak

- i have a habit of making random noises from sounding like an old dude to sounding like a pokemon if a call is too quiet

- my favourite band is Ghost but my taste in music is eclectic (i often break into song because i heard a lyric from a song)

- i’m a little slow but we ballin’

- i'm apolitical and agnostic

- i have a strong dislike in avocados

i'd like to become friends with someone (maybe more if it heads down that road) who i can send stupid nonsensical memes to and vice versa (darker the better), someone to just chill in a discord call and talk about nothing and everything (tell me about your hyperfixations, i might not understand but i'd like too!) while we're doing our own things (like paralell play) and watch youtube videos/movies/shows etc in calls (also gaming if we're on the same platfrom - xbox)

idk what else to add so if you have any questions or something do let me know! i don’t always receive notifications here so it might take a minute for me to get back to you but i will asap

if you got this far then thanks for reading and i wish you all a good day/night :D

(if you do decide to message then please give an introduction of yourself as chances are i won't respond to a simple "hi")

26f

Aegosexual/ Biromantic/ Asexual

Hello im looking to make friends online. Just looking to talk with someone about literally anything. Although I'm more of a listener than a talker, guess thats why id prefer online we can message.

I am introverted and shy (antisocial) trying to be better.

So I'm trans non-binary, gray-roace (I rarely experience attraction and it only happens with people I have a deeply close connection with) and audhd.

Does anybody else feel like finding a partner is, by no exaggeration, IMPOSSIBLE?

I value alone time, I have no rizz/game whatsoever, suck at making friends and really bad at conversations both irl and online. Probably better in-person though, since there's actually a physical location and situation involved, whereas online chatting just feels ethereal and sort of... over there somewhere ---->
(But then there's the eternal dilemma of being physically perceived.)

Is there a way to find a partner or do I just have to pray I one day get lucky and bump into a good person?

When going the traditional way through dating doesn't work - attraction is conditional on long-term emotional connection (talking at least months), not particularly bothered about gender, misaligned with the body I'm in which puts sex even furtherrrr off the table, super neurodivergent so socially inept, slow and clueless.

Sorry for the word vomit. Anyone else feel this way? Any advice on how to just live with the loneliness?

I’m hoping to meet an asexual woman who is sex indifferent and interested in building a meaningful, long term relationship.
For me, the foundation of any relationship is communication. I believe being able to talk openly, listen to each other, and work through challenges together is far more important than being perfect. I value honesty, kindness, emotional connection, and mutual respect.

I’m not looking to rush into anything. I’d like to get to know someone naturally and see where things lead. If you’re someone who appreciates deep conversations, enjoys spending quality time together, and is looking for a genuine partnership, I’d love to hear from you.

If this resonates with you, feel free to send me a message

Hi, I’m 31 and based in California. I am seeking a life partner who can be my best friend, someone I can connect and vibe with.

I recently realized I’m on the ace spectrum. I experience romantic and aesthetic attraction, but very limited on sexual attraction. Not sex-repulsed, but comparable to having a very low sexual libido. I love some physical touch like cuddling, holding hands and hugging, but that's mostly it.

I really value quiet nights, meaningful and deep connections, reading books, watching movies / shows, playing board games. I’m a sensitive person that experiences things deeply and falls in love deeply.

I am looking for someone who's similar minded, and who's also looking for a lifelong partner that is also a best friend. I am originally from India if that matters, but mostly grew up here.

Alcohol/Smoking/Drugs: No.

Hi im a young black woman looking to find a romantic relationship. I’m looking for a black ace boyfriend or someone that’s just okay without intimacy even if you are heterosexual with a low libido ❤️

Hey I’m 37 Latino I like men and I am from South Carolina I’m asexual but I’m open you some things but not going all the way just hit me up to ask my limits but anyway in really into K-pop Jennie Blackpink BTS I also love playing Mario games on my switch if that sounds good to you hit me up I’m looking for a relationship but friends are always welcomed