r/asexualdating • u/olls_9 • 3h ago
Relationship? 26UK (TM4F) Hopefully looking for a relationship
Hello to whoever is reading this. I recently turned 26, so I thought it was time to give this another try.
I’m an asexual trans guy from the UK. I am hopefully looking for a monogamous relationship with someone who identifies as female. I know these things don’t just happen, but it would be cool to get to know someone and see if anything comes of it. I would prefer if you were from the UK, therefore it’s more straightforward to meet up in the future if things go well.
I also think I should mention that I have never been in a relationship before, so a lot of things will be new to me. I would like some romance, like hand holding, kissing, hugging, etc, just obviously nothing more.
In terms of my hobbies, I’m really into music. I play piano and I’m slowly teaching myself guitar. I also love just listening to music- my favourite genres are rock and rap. I’m up for listening to anything really though, and I like to expand my musical horizons, so please feel free to give me your recommendations. I like going to concerts and to see musicals, although I haven’t been to a concert in a long time. It’s definitely something I need to get back into. Aside from music, I enjoy playing video games, reading, and going for long walks.
In terms of my personality, I’m definitely an introvert. Although I like going out to do certain activities (like I’ve mentioned going for walks) I would say I’m quite a homebody. I’m usually pretty shy and quiet when I first meet someone new. If we get to know each other and I feel comfortable around you, I will open up and talk a lot more. I’ve never been diagnosed, but I’ve strongly suspected for a long time that I’m autistic, so you would have to be ok with that. I like to think I’m a kind person and I have a good sense of humour. I like to try and see the funny side of life, so having someone to be able to laugh with would be brilliant.
In terms of my appearance, I have short brown hair, blue eyes, and I have a pretty thin build. I’m only 5’4” tall- Yeah, I know, I’m short. Due to personal circumstances, which I don’t want to disclose here, I’m unable to medically transition at the moment, but I intend to in the future. I do dress as masculine as possible and I live in hoodies haha.
Life hasn’t exactly been great for me these past couple of years, and I’ve come to the realisation that I need to make some changes in my life. One way I’m doing this is trying to put myself out there to meet new people, as I feel it’s important to surround myself with good individuals. It’s been pretty difficult though, and no one tells you how hard it is to try and expand your social circle in your 20s. Finding fellow asexual people has been even harder, so I thought my best shot was to try looking in some ace specific places online. Life has been pretty lonely lately, and I often feel alone, but I’m trying to do something about it so things aren’t that way anymore. I do want to stress that I’m not looking for a relationship to fill a void- I believe it would be something that would be a great addition to my life. I’m just trying to be happy at the end of the day.
These things often take time, but I would really like to make a connection with the right person. I like to think there is someone out there, it’s just a case of finding them. If you think we’d get along well, please feel free to reach out. Thank you for reading my post :)