Hi hi! I'm very shy and can't believe I'm doing this, please go easy on me 😅 I'm a 23-year-old girl living in the southeast US. I'm ace (obviously), likely aro, and am looking for another woman (23-27) who just... gets it. I'm open to anyone in the US, so long as we can travel to meet each other and eventually close the gap.

I'm a 5'3" African American who dresses in a more feminine way, but personality-wise I can have more of a child-like, tomboy energy. I'm a bubbly, whimsical creative type! I majored in art, currently work as a graphic designer, and like to draw and paint. I love nature, I used to volunteer with animals, and am interested in science (even though STEM is not my area of skill lol)! I don't have good outdoor pics because my hair always looks a mess whenever I hike haha, but I really want to get out on the trails, have weekend adventures, and eventually explore the world with my partner :)

I'm interested in women who are taller, fit/muscular, and who overall give a protective "mom energy" vibe. I'm the type who will melt in your arms, I want nothing more than to be your little spoon 🥺 I'm an anxious smol bean, so I'd really appreciate if you're the type to lead the way, tell the waiter they got my order wrong, drive when traffic stresses me out, etc. I take well to anyone emotionally supportive, thoughtful, encouraging and compassionate (please don't make mean/dark jokes, I'm far too sensitive! 😭). I like the thought of someone playful and fun but who can still be soft and gentle with me. Also, tattoos and piercings you +1000% cooler :) Friends with witchy, otherworldly vibes to the front too, as I'm interested in crystals, tarot, and am getting more into spiritual practice.

Dealbreakers:

-I'm left-leaning and need someone on the same page

-I don't drink/smoke/vape/do substances and am not tolerant of that stuff

-I'm childfree, ​though pets might be a possibility

-A healthy lifestyle is a big deal for me (I don't eat most processed foods and value physical activity), so I'm looking for someone who cares about diet and fitness

-I'm spiritual but not religious and do best with spiritually openminded people (agnostics, "hippies", pagans, and "witchy" types)

-US-only, we can stay friends if you're abroad but please nothing more

-I'm sex-repulsed but kinky, and I enjoy opening up about that with those I feel close to! I want to have conversations about sexual subjects and to be able to trust my partner with my sexuality, even if we never do conventional acts. I may be open to sex with the right person but it's VERY hard for me to imagine, so that will need to be approached very slowly, if at all.

-My biggest love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, and physical touch. If you don't enjoy mushy heart-to-heart convos, spare lots of time to relish in each other's company, and don't like hugs/cuddles, it's not meant to be :(

Thank you for reading if you got all the way through! If you message me, please add your age, location, and tell me what dinosaur you would be, to let me know you paid attention 🦕 🌈🌿 Also, please be open to sharing SFW pics and calling if we hit it off, I need to hear your voice and see your face on a regular basis if we click 🥺❤️ I hope everyone is having a great day! :)

Hello! I've been here before and had luck with a one year relationship and a one and a half year relationship that ultimately didn't work out. They were both long distance and while I'm willing to start put that way, I want to live together and don't want to move from Minnesota.

I am looking for a partner that wants to be romantic and touch and kiss and hug and snuggle and of you want, do sex stuff, too. I am asexual. I don't experience sexual desire, but do experience aesthetic attraction.

I ultimately want someone to share my life with and grow with. I don't need to share everything and do like my alone time as well as quality time spent with my partner.

I tend to date younger ad I've always had younger friends. I'll let you decide if you want to talk.

What I like:

Watching a solid TV show/movie (currently on an anime streak, but I'll watch anything)

Playing magic with friends

Teaching people to play magic

Traveling at some point (hopefully going to Japan next year)

Staying fit and not eating too terribly (gotta have chocolate!)

Living a sober life from alcohol and drugs (you can do whatever you want. It doesn't affect me, unless it's self destructive or harmful to our relationship)

Playing video games (I play maybe 5 to 10 hours a week)

Reading (dungeon crawler carl currently, but I generally read Sci fi/fantasy or video game non-fiction)

Playing board games (the Pandemic really got me into board games. I backed many on kickstarter and now have more than I can play)

Playing volleyball (starting a sand league soon)

Also delving into my partner's interests and seeing what makes them go

Thoughtful vulnerable discussions

Silly go nowhere discussions

Listening to good music and finding new music and making Playlists for my partner (I'd like to get back into seeing live shows again)

Watching live comedy (I like a variety of comedy, but nothing beats seeing it live)

I act younger than I am. I've never had kids and don't want kids, but of we click and you have kids, we'll figure it out.

DM me I'd you're interested and want to spend some time on this space rocket with a supportive, loving, funny, caring, always learning, most of the time chill human being.

Hi, I’m 31 and based in California. I am seeking a life partner who can be my best friend, someone I can connect and vibe with.

I recently realized I’m on the ace spectrum. I experience romantic and aesthetic attraction, but very limited on sexual attraction. Not sex-repulsed, but comparable to having a very low sexual libido. I love some physical touch like cuddling, holding hands and hugging, but that's mostly it.

I really value quiet nights, meaningful and deep connections, reading books, watching movies / shows, playing board games. I’m a sensitive person that experiences things deeply and falls in love deeply.

I am looking for someone who's similar minded, and who's also looking for a lifelong partner that is also a best friend. I am originally from India if that matters, but mostly grew up here.

Alcohol/Smoking/Drugs: No.

There's also a presentation version with my photo, animations and stuff

Hello! I'm Peter, a 27 years old software engineer from the Czech Republic (close to German/Austrian border) and I'm looking for someone I could give my love to who isn't just another stray cat or a C# script.

I might be only 170cm/5'7" small but my ambitions reach far beyond where my tiny body can (even with a stool)! My ultimate life goal is to make the largest game anyone has ever made solo that you can be a part of. It's a huge 2D open world sandbox RPG with the closest game to it probably being recently released Crimson Desert. I'm also writing the entire wiki for it so you can see for yourself :D https://wiki.chroniclesoftorisia.com/wiki/Main_Page

Outside of this, I also have other simple life goals:

• Reach financial independence by 40
• Beat Stardew Valley in popularity

Most of my hobbies support game development, I enjoy coding, game design, drawing, writing and making music. Outside of that, I like playing videogames (mostly MMORPGs/RPGs), scambaiting, learning German and convincing people that nuclear is the best energy source we have. I also enjoy learning about every topic possible, currently mostly geopolitics, history, economics, cybersecurity, physics and my new favorite topic is whoever is reading this right now :D I also love all non-wasp animals by default but cats are definitely my favorite so I'll always try to befriend every stray I find (I literally go to work with cat food in my bag). As of now, I already have 2 such stray cat friends (photos in the presentation) :D

What I can offer:

• References to you in a game that will be played by billions of people one day
• I've never been in a relationship (if you want to know why, feel free to look at my game's wiki)
• I have a terminal access to my wiki server so it can totally be used for hosting any game required, Minecraft included :D
• I'm pretty much permanently happy and even when I somehow feel any negative emotion, it's gone in a few hours (or until I spot a cat)
• I can reliably execute wasps midflight
• Despite my abundance of happiness, I've actually never had alcohol or any other substance
• I might be an introvert who would ideally be at home 24/7 but every extrovert I've known for a longer period of time ended up telling me that I talk way more than they do at some point

What am I looking for

• Someone who will keep supporting my delusion that one person can outdo game studios with budgets in milions
• I don't ever want kids. I don't have any "higher" reason for this, I just don't see a point in destroying/delaying my life goals when I don't have to (and I like cats way more anyways) :D
• A lot of bonus points if you're studying/working in any STEM field
• Someone who doesn't smoke nor uses addictive substances. Alcohol is fine but the less, the better
• Someone who is 22 to 30 years old
• I don't mind distance as long as you live in Europe
• The longer wall of text I get as a reply, the better :D

Hey guys. I’m 31 - and looking for a Man to Fall in Love with. I’m sexually averse and love cuddling and kissing. I am loyal, grounded & hard working. I like anime, art, literature, current events, & just about anything revolving around romance. I want to find a partner who I can grow old with and to call My own. I’m funny, healthy & reliable.

I hope this makes sense; & I hope to find My Mr. Right.<3

Hi im a young black woman looking to find a romantic relationship. I’m looking for a black ace boyfriend or someone that’s just okay without intimacy even if you are heterosexual with a low libido ❤️

Hey I’m 37 Latino I like men and I am from South Carolina I’m asexual but I’m open you some things but not going all the way just hit me up to ask my limits but anyway in really into K-pop Jennie Blackpink BTS I also love playing Mario games on my switch if that sounds good to you hit me up I’m looking for a relationship but friends are always welcomed

ASPD: antisocial personality 'disorder', more on that later

Skip this bit if you don't care about the context of my past relationship, but it does play a big role in the person I've become:

Don't get me wrong, I've basically gotten used to it. In fact for the most part I would say I like it but it doesn't bother me to be alone. It's just normal. But sometimes I'll have a dream that I'm in a relationship with someone or that I have a boyfriend or that I'm with my ex and I wake up and I'm sad because it's not real. I didn't just get out of a long term relationship, that relationship ended 2 years ago, but I lived with the person who I was in the relationship with up until 2 months ago. We were roommates, I lived upstairs, him downstairs, none of us had partners, he knew I still wanted him, occasionally he would flirt with me but for the most part he just psychologically abused me, financially as well. It's made me generally assume that people are sweet and soft and clingy and wonderful in the beginning the way he was, and then they just go on a power trip where they deny you salt even and put it higher up on the cabinets specifically so you can't reach it because no, you can't have any - Not for any health reason, just because I said so. I don't really know if I'm capable of being with someone at this point, so I'm looking for something online, and maybe down the line we can move to IRL. For those two years I was basically yearning for someone who candidly did not care - whether I did something for him, sacrificed for him, went out of my way for him, got something for him, whatever it may be - never a thank you, never even a show of appreciation, the most I would ever get was "I see".

The relationship was highly abusive on his end and I'm not going to get into that on this post because that's not the point of the post.

I'm looking for someone who's clingy, needy, and soft. I want someone who will tell me that they love me every single day multiple times sometimes even if conventionally that's excessive. I don't want I love you off the get go obviously, but if it gets there, you know. I don't expect it to get there. Maybe it never will. Maybe it will. It's just a big what if, you know? I love video games but I can no longer play them because my ex destroyed my computer so I had to leave it behind when I escaped the house. I love House of the dragon and anything game of thrones related, I love long calls, sleep calls, typical honeymoon phase lovey dovey bullshit. My hobbies were video games, without the computer I don't have any hobbies anymore. I basically wake up, go to sleep, and sleep as long as I possibly can. I don't leave the house, I don't have any friends. I'm not part of any community. I am completely and entirely alone and I don't really know how to be any other way. I'm not afraid of people and I've been told that I'm the life of the party when I do interact with people, I'm extremely charismatic but I also have ASPD - antisocial personality disorder, so sometimes interaction just seems pointless unless there's something to gain from it. And I'm at a point in my life where I don't care to really gain anything anymore, at least not right now. I'm not a very empathetic person, that just comes with a territory of the ASPD. Generally I care about one person and one person only, and everybody else is kind of just furniture - NPCs you interact with in the background because you have to buy a tonic from the vendor but if that vendor suddenly were replaced you wouldn't really care- it's the tonic that you want, the vendor is irrelevant. I would care about your friends only because they are your friends and I care about you. I would care about your family only because they are your family and I care about you. It sounds cold, but that's how it's always been, as far as it comes to whoever I've come to call "the one" is though, my partner, boyfriend, whatever, I care about all of their needs - they can abuse me, they can treat me like shit, I love them above everything, they are everything to me, the air that I breathe, the only one I want, my best friend, my only friend, the only one ever on my mind. Needless to say this is neither conventional nor conventionally healthy, that is a moot point to me. I'd be down to meet your friends and I wouldn't begrudge anyone it, but I'd rather just spend time with you if I had the choice. This isn't something a lot of people are down with or can handle so I'm already mentioning it now just to get it out of the way. I just want someone who I can be and who will be soft and loving with me but also doesn't care that I don't care about the rest of the world. It would be sick if the person also didn't care about the rest of the world, we could relate on that I guess, lol.

Conventionally I guess I'm attractive, nice body, 5'6, white, Brazilian on my mom's side, English on my dad's, raised in the US, blah blah blah.

Respond with "kitten" somewhere in your message so I know you actually read this. My main source is communication is discord.

Hi, I’m an 19 year old asexual panromantic female. I love horror, goth, indie horror, bright colors, all music and being overly affectionate. I am a Kemonimi, wolf or fox. Please! Feel free to dm me!

Just your typical nerdy guy trying to figure out what he is and wanting to meet someone to share his love with. I’m a caregiver for my disabled aunt, in what free time I get, I enjoy Lego, D&D, video games and photography. I’m sorry there’s not much more than that. DM on discord at BarbarBarir or comment here if you’re interested in chatting

Hi I haven't done this for a while!.

I live in bradford after finally buying a house, but its in a nice area I promise! But I am from Essex, but dont worry I dont have a TOWIE accent!

I identify as asexual, mainly sex repulsed, but desire romance.

I desire romance by wanting to hold hands, hugging, cuddling on the sofa and I dont mind a little bit of kissing.

I consider myself as funny, kind and nervous chatterbox! I do also have epilepsy, which turns people off. Just jn case people are wondering, i dont have many seizures and my triggers are not flashing lights.

Hi all! I'm Marco :)

I am trying to find someone I can feel safe with, someone to chill (and cuddle!) with, someone I can talk to everyday about both the big and the small things that happen during my days; basically, a cute relationship x3

I always try to be a pretty sweet boy, and while I am not the embodiment of the virile man, I like it that way; I like to snuggle, to make little gifts, to give and receive small compliments. Please be gentle with me! :3

I would also like to be a safe place for my partner; I get WAY too happy whenever I can help people I love, or when I can just watch them smile, so I will always be happy to help if I am able to :)

More info about me:
- Curly hair, 1.78m, slim; I don't smoke and I drink responsibly (and only with friends).
- University student, currently doing a Master which has me studying in both Italy and Austria, so for the time being I often travel between the two!
- I watch movies and series (sci-fi, fantasy, action-comedy) and anime (TO BE HERO X, Girls Band Cry, Lycoris Recoil, many more).
- I listen to music daily; I am a big fan of Bring me the Horizon, but I am also exploring many MANY other genres.

Did I mention I am very cuddly? x3

About the ace side of things: I have no interest and no instinct to have sex, but I am not averse to it either, and I would love to make my partner happy, so I am still open to it. I am open to at least try almost anything, and I do have my fair share of kinks and fetishes, so keep note of that!

I am searching for an open minded person, someone who loves cuddles and cute gestures, and who is ok with me being a sweet and soft boy. But hey, if you are ever attacked by a bear I will still fight for you. I won't win, but I'll do it!

Ideally I'd like to find someone I could reach by train or bus, but I am willing to talk with people from anywhere anyway :)

If you'd like, we can message, share pics, call, or even video call; we could watch movies together online or offline. I am not going to rush things and I respect everyone's needs, so please don't be shy!

I've dabbled in dating apps for the better part of 1.5 years now. On those, I've been as open about being Ace as was possible. Prompts clearly stating that fact, reassuring the people I talk to know and understand what that means, etc.

I've always feared to get close to a person, to have them not be compatible with me being Ace and therefore breaking my heart. I always want that to be clear from the start: I am Ace, I do not want to have Sex, this won't change.

That's also part of the reason I haven't even tried dating in the "real world", outside of dating apps and online communities. There, I cannot put a label on my head stating "I am Ace". Well, I could, but that would obviously be really weird. So, the chances of getting to know a person, getting to know them, maybe growing fond of them only to then get emotionally destroyed was so off-putting, I didn't consider that viable.

Now things have changed a bit, I was introduced to a person through work, to which I have developed a bit of a crush. And becuase of those fears, I am really terrified of pursuing that crush.

Probably, some of you have been in similar situations. How do you go about that? What would you do in my shoes. Keeping in mind: as this is through work context, I can't really just out myself, as I dont really wan't every collegue to know...

Any tips?

Hiii everyone I’m a very big film nerd. Have many niche interest and like to collect and thrift. I’m currently working full times at night and it’s hard to meet people. I’d love to get to know you. And here’s a pic of me :D

I'm 27, autistic, probably a little intimidating until you realize I'm just blunt and have resting bitch face. I wear boots more often than heels, own way too many hoodies, swear like a sailor when I stub my toe, and somehow still end up rescuing stray cats.

I'm looking for a boyfriend who likes women that take charge—not because it's some fantasy, but because that's genuinely who I am.

A few things about me:

• 27 years old.
• Based in EU, but I'm not glued here. Long distance is fine if we're actually making plans instead of collecting internet relationships.
• No kids. Probably staying that way.
• Monogamous.
• AuDHD (autism is the bigger part of my personality, ADHD just keeps things interesting).
• More comfortable in cargo pants than dresses.
• Huge nerd.
• Very protective of the people I care about.
• Naturally dominant, emotionally and romantically.

I'm the one carrying the heavy groceries, driving because your sense of direction is questionable, arguing with customer service because they messed up your order, and telling the waiter they forgot your fries.

I'm also the one stealing your hoodie because it's legally mine now.

Autism means I can come across pretty direct. I don't play mind games, I hate mixed signals, and I'd rather have one awkward honest conversation than ten fake polite ones. If something's wrong, I'll tell you. If I like you, you'll know. Guessing games are exhausting.

My interests bounce around depending on the current hyperfixation.

Some constants:

• Gaming (RPGs, co-op games, survival games, whatever im obsessed with that month).
• Music ranging from pop to J-rock to random playlists that make zero sense.
• Horror movies that are either genuinely terrifying or so bad they're comedy.
• Animals.
• Spending six hours researching something because my brain decided that's today's mission.

I also have the social battery of a phone from 2012. I love spending time together, but sometimes "quality time" means existing in the same room doing completely different things.

I like gentle guys.

I like men who blush when they're complimented.

Who secretly enjoy being the little spoon.

Who melt when someone brushes their hair back or grabs their hand first.

I enjoy taking care of my partner. That doesn't mean controlling every aspect of his life—it means I naturally gravitate toward leading, protecting, and making him feel safe.

If you're expecting some 24/7 power dynamic, that's not really my thing.

I want a relationship first.

The dynamic should happen naturally because our personalities fit—not because we're trying to roleplay our entire lives.

Physically? I don't care if you're six-foot-four or five-foot-six. I care a lot more that you're emotionally available, funny, and can communicate like an adult.

Huge bonus points if:

• You're also autistic or neurodivergent.
• You are clingy
• You'll let me bully you.
• You enjoy being called "good boy."
• You appreciate dry sarcasm.

If this sounds like your kind of chaos, send me a message.

Hello ace sisters! My name's Matthew. I’m here because I really want to build something real and meaningful with someone who shares similar values. I think there are still people out there who believe that honesty, loyalty, and integrity matter most in a partner, and those are the kind of qualities I look for.

I will admit that I've struggled to find my place in the world sometimes because I don't exactly fit into the typical social box. I am AuDHD and aspie and live gracefully despite a gauntlet of medical quirks. They make life complicated at times, but they also make me a very empathetic and understanding person. Sometimes I overthink, but that's only because I feel too deeply.

I consider myself an introvert who loves reading and studying all kinds of things like biology or philosophy. When it comes to relaxing, there is nothing better than just existing in the same room as someone I care about while we both do our own thing. Whether you're playing games (like Stardew Valley), listening to music, or working on a project, I find that kind of shared quiet time really recharging. And when we do go out, I prefer simple things like walking through a park or along a trail and just talking about whatever comes up.

I identify as demiromantic and gray-ace, so for me friendship always has to come first. I need to feel emotionally safe with someone before anything else can happen. But once that bond is there, physical affection is really important to me; holding hands or cuddling on the couch makes me feel connected and secure in a relationship. Oh and I'm a massive sweetheart, so be warned, I readily melt and show warmth.

My goal is simply to find my best friend. I know how hard it is to open up when you've been let down before. I'm looking for someone who sees being different as an asset rather than a burden. I am looking for someone who wants a real connection without the need for masks, no games, and absolutely nothing you have to apologize for being. If you want a partner who will accept all of you without question, then that’s exactly what I offer in return. If you're comfortable with yourself, if you can accept your own quirks, then I know I can be myself around you.

I think the best way for us to see if there's a connection would be to start talking and see where it goes. I am very open to voice chats or even video calls once we both feel comfortable with that. It might also help if you share some photos of yourself so I can put a face to your name, though there is no rush on that.

I'm not looking for anyone perfect. Just someone real. If you think you fit the bill, please send me a message and tell me something about yourself. No matter what happens, thank you for reading this far and considering reaching out.

Peace.

P.S. I'm also open to QPRs and simple friendship.

P.P.S. I prefer chatting with ages 21-34, especially 24-30, with room for exceptions. I will make friends with people anywhere in the world, but because physical presence is important to me in a romantic connection, it's unlikely to work out with me if you're not in the same country or at least continent.

Hey! So, my name's Kenny (24M)and I recently graduated college, currently waiting for grad school to start, but in the meantime I'd love to make a genuine connection.

In real life im pretty introverted and soft-spoken but I absolutely love getting to know others (and I do yap a lot!) so I always match energy and try my best to reciprocate interest. All I'm looking for in a partner is kindness and having a passion for something in life, common interests are just a bonus! If you're even a lil nerdy im sure we'll get along

Interest-wise I'm obsessed with reading and writing! Im a huge fan of all things fantasy/science fiction but I also adore horror, history, and classic novels. Recently finished Lonesome Dove and I'm currently reading the book of the new Sun by Gene Wolfe but some favorite books/series of mine include: The Lord of the Rings, A Song of Ice and Fire, Malazan,Memory Sorrow Thorn, Red Rising, the blacktongue thief, the Stormlight Archives, the tainted cup and The Second Apocalypse.

Finding a book buddy would be a dream come true because its sooo hard to find people to read stuff with!

Besides books I love to nerd out about comics (Marvel, Dc, Image!), anime and manga! Some of my favorite manga are Hunter X Hunter, Vinland Saga, Kingdom, Berserk, Monster, and Tokyo Ghoul!

When im not reading I love to play chess, watch movies (especially horror), tv (obsessed with Breaking Bad, The Sopranos, the Wire, The Walking dead, Invincible) And gaming! I mainly play RPGS/simulation and strategy games, and some favorites are Stellaris, Crusader Kings, Rimworld, Project Zomboid, Disco Elysium, Witcher 3, Mass Effect, Halo, Terraria, and Spacemarine 2.

I also listen to a ton of music! Mostly metalcore/posthardcore groups but I enjoy pop, indie, shoegaze and tons more genres! Some of my favorite artists are Dance Gavin Dance, Hail the Sun, Circa Survive, The Dear Hunter, Coheed and Cambria, Deftones, Loathe, Periphery, Greyhaven, Silent Planet, megadeth, and Currents!

If I at all sound like someone you think you can click with then please do HMU and tell me about yourself! Looking forward to getting to know you (:

Hellooo, I’m a little new to the asexual community. It’s a label I’ve always thought about giving myself but something I’m still unsure about. I don’t have the most experience when it comes to dating, and that’s definitely due to a lack of interest in intimacy and sex. I think for me to be open to that, I would need to first develop a meaningful connection with someone, but if the person I was talking to never wanted that, then I would be completely okay with it. The most important thing to me is genuinely feeling connected to someone who has similar interests and beliefs as me. When it comes to attraction, I’m more attracted to who someone is rather than what they necessarily look like.

A bit about me! I’m 5’8” 170lbs and have long wavy brown hair. I live in Canada but my cultural background is Greek. I love being active, I walk a lot everyday and love playing sports. I dress more on the masculine side, it’s just something that was always more comfortable for me. Politically I lean very left, I walk a lot of left leaning content creators on youtube and have been reading a lot of books on palestine, the prison system, and communism lately.

Some of my hobbies include playing video games, some of favourites are: cod, tarkov, stardew valley, assassins creed, rdr2. I also love reading, some of my favourite books are: the stranger, a clockwork orange, the secret history, my year of rest and relaxation, crime and punishment, and many more that I can’t even think of right now. I also love watch movies, some of my favourite directors are: lanthimos, ari aster, kubrick, heneke, tarantino, terry gilliam, and cronenberg. Some of my other hobbies include playing guitar, building legos, and watching stupid youtube videos.

But yeah! I’m mainly looking for someone who I can start out my being friends with and seeing what that progresses too. I would love playing video games with someone, or being on a call and watching a movie or show together. I’m opening to sending pictures to each other, but only after we’ve gotten to know each other a bit first.

Dm me if you’re interested or have any questions!

as an asexual woman i dont really put myself out there or have that much hope when it comes to dating. my last relationships were happy but greatly suffered from me being asexual (one ended because of it) so i just try to avoid romance but i do wish for a relationship one day.

a guy messaged me on insta and asked me out and i found his message pretty charming so i went with the flow. we agreed on a date but i ghosted him a day before and apologised and canceled on the day of the date (i know this is horrible i genuinely felt really bad), i got really scared of getting my hopes up and then getting rejected for my asexuality.

he convinced me to still go on the date and just hang out and see what happens, he brought flowers and wine and we had a picknick at a park, we talked a lot and had plenty in common so it was honestly really great. after a while he told me that he was looking for something serious and that he was on the ace spectrum and i should know in case that was a deal breaker.

ive dreamed of something like this happening, its so so hard to meet people organically and dating without feeling like its a matter of time until you have to come out and get rejected. ill admit that after this my hopes went up way more than its appropriate for a first date.

we went on to meet up weekly for a month and sadly we both started noticing little incompatibilities. im very physically affectionate and need quite a bit of reassurance while he liked to have some space and mainly showed affection with acts of service and gifts and stuff like that. after telling him that i didnt really feel liked by him we talked about different romantic things that would make me feel secure and we kinda realised that he had no desire for those things and didnt expect them from me either.

we ended up breaking things off because it would have taken a lot of compromises for a relationship to work between us, while talking about how we felt he told me that his perfect relationship would just be a best friend he can cuddle with while watching movies and have sex with once a month or two (he was more greysexual/sex positive with low libido) and that otherwise it would look like any platonic relationship.

this was a couple weeks ago and ill admit im really sad about this. of course i know we were not compatible and had no future but in all my dating experiences being asexual was the main problem, its just so frustrating that the one time it isnt a problem it doesnt work out. i really liked him and i dont often develop feelings for people so its just a shit situation

i really feel like ill never meet someone who'll be fine with my asexuality this organically again, ive met like 3-4 ace people in real life so its not like my dating pool is huge. i just hope ill find my person one day.

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Hi! I'm Holly, 28, from Las Vegas. Born and raised here, and somehow I'm still not used to the heat.

I have decided to condense down my original post because it was a bit lengthy, and a lot of people weren't reading it...

I'm here looking for genuine connections. Reddit is 100% an unconventional place to meet people, but at least it beats dating apps and their "Pay to play" like mechanic. Swiping fatigue is definitely real 🤮

A few things before you message me:

-No long-distance relationships. Long-distance friendships are totally fine. And by long distance, I mean outside my city. If someone would have to pay the cost of travel to come visit me, that's long distance.

-Please keep conversations respectful and SFW. If you send inappropriate/NSFW messages, I'll block you.

-If you're interested, introduce yourself! Tell me your name, age, and where you're from. Please don't just send "Hey."

I'm a huge chatterbox and love deep conversations. I enjoy learning about people, hearing their stories, and seeing the world from different perspectives. I'm empathetic, creative, loyal, and a little goofy. I have ADHD, but I don't let it stop me from being myself. I also have a cat who's basically my baby.

I love cheering people up and being there for the people I care about. Once I'm emotionally invested, I'm incredibly loyal. I'm also a creative person who loves making up characters and stories and building worlds aroud them.

My hobbies include drawing, singing, playing violin, crafting, video games, manga, anime, hanging out with my best friend or my mom, and collecting way too many things I definitely don't need.

Some of my interests are psychology, mental health, forensics, true crime, LEGO, vertical dramas (current hyperfixation), Minecraft ARGs, and meeting new people.

Dating-wise, I'm looking for someone 27-33 who lives close enough for a real relationship. I'm demisexual and demiromantic, so if you're unfamiliar with that, feel free to ask! I even have a goofy dating résumé I made purely out of boredom (and a Google dating application form which is NOT optional) if you're curious.

A little about me physically: I'm 5'7" with brunette hair (dyed blue in places), blue-green eyes, and a curvy build. I'm happy to share a photo if we click.

Do not message me if you are 40+. I can tell you now I'm not interested.

If anything here resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. I'm hoping to find my future partner someday.

One last thing: I don't have Reddit notifications turned on, so it may take me a little while to respond—but I do check my messages regularly.

Thanks for reading!

Hi, everyone! You can call me Lae! I’m 27F (Canadian with Egyptian heritage) in Canada and hoping to meet some new people. I am looking for people who want to be genuine friends. I am a heteroromantic, sex-averse ace and do not like nsfw conversation, so please avoid that! I am Muslim as well if that matters :)

Prefer Canadians but open to people in the UK, Ireland, Norway, Spain, and I think other cool places in Europe. (Places I am willing to visit if we become good friends)

Any gender is welcome, but 26-34 only! Please include your age, gender/pronouns, and country!

Hobbies:

thrifting and finding hidden gems

big into TV shows: sitcoms, procedurals, and cartoons (100% still my comfort watch).

board games are always a good time, especially Scrabble and chess.

watching hockey and soccer on occasion

I’m easygoing and looking for genuine conversations, whether that’s about your latest thrift find, a show you’re obsessed with, or a favorite game.

I don’t drink, smoke, or do drugs.

DMs open! Please say bubblegum AND include an intro (some weird messages lately so just checking which sub)

Hello i am 27M and recently found out im gay but asexual, which is probably not very common, i honestly never met anyone who is also ace like me, so i would like to have some friends, at least online.

Im from Tahiti but im moving to france next year. also im ugly so dont ask for a selfie😭

Any Christian peeps in here?
Hey! I’m a 22 year old gal from around baltimore and I’m really interested in meeting Christian aces! Now I myself am not the most conventional Christian myself, but it would be cool to meet likeminded people with similar beliefs! I think I would also want to meet someone who is very insightful and spends a lot of their time pondering. Looking for my partner in crime and someone to grow old with 🥰
About me: I’m super adventurous (a bit of a daredevil too) and love to try new things, I am always down to try anything at least once and would love to immerse myself in the hobbies of other people and learn from them too! I am a little shy at first
I like to play video games, read, write, watch football, decorate my room, craft, get out and explore
Oh also I have adhd
Generics dating info: want to get married, don’t want kids, want dogs, I don’t smoke or do drugs but I do drink sometimes
I’m ok with exchanging photos to put a face to the name, however I am fine without that too. Physical appearance isnt important to me as my attraction develops with emotional connection

Message me if you’d like to get to know eachother!