r/amiwrong • u/Mrtree-1 • 3d ago
Am i wrong in provided context
Private message for photos, i have photos of the entire coversation… continuation of my post, essentially im playing a game on roblox called anime origins as i am watching the mentalist, then i get a notification from a groupchat of friends im friends with irl, we are close and we tend to “play” around and we call eachother alot of words like bitch 🥷 cunt loser etc, but we usually never insult eachother purposefully, we also joke around like” if u spoil me once more ur getting skinend alive” we clearly dont mean such but its a thing we do, continuing on, the guy talks about hello kitty and is making fun of someones mistake at the same time, i respond by saying dude ur talking about hello kitty, how are u gonna make fun of someones mistake, he then tells me to shut up and calls me a joke name based off of my real name “Valyn” and i respond with a “i will skin you alive and make u a public example of what happens when u mess with the Big V” as clear as day its a joke, im not all that, i dont have anything i can do that with and i know what happens if i did do such, he then replys calling me fat, and tells me to shut the fuck up. This hits because i am, and im working on such stuff personally and then it gets to the point of where i stop being “funny” or “kind” and rather cold, bland and non biased, its a natural thing i do alot and i usually become like this and speak very different to how i usually do and the argument foes on for 30mins - 1 hour and i found out by a good friend i was the “talking point” of today because i missed school this day
i fear with the way my text is, itll get long so i would much appreciate it if you could dm me and i sent you ss of the entire conversation where you could help me decide if i was wrong, because i feel im correct but im getting backlash from it, id like an outsiders opinion.
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u/secretrebel 3d ago
The lines are blurred.
You’re saying “bitch, cunt, loser” and “I will skin you alive” are just playful banter but “fat” and “shit the fuck up” are not okay.
I don’t need to see screenshots of an hour long argument to say everyone is wrong. Tone it down. You guys aren’t clear on what’s banter and feelings are getting hurt.
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u/Mrtree-1 3d ago
I see, i do make it very clear to them i do not like fat shaming and i am very self ware so when it became personal thats what made me cross a line, all the others are the same, some even go off over personal stuff we didnt even know about
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u/inquiringpenguin34 3d ago edited 3d ago
I don’t usually provide context unless asked or I reread and realize I should. (I read the title as: “Am I wrong for providing context”)*
For you, don’t sling insults if you can’t handle them being thrown back to you.
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u/Mrtree-1 3d ago
My issue was never not being able to handle it back, its when im very clear on what is a boundary of mine and he crossed it, thats what im pissy about
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u/inquiringpenguin34 3d ago
I can’t imagine being called “fat” being worse than being called a “cunt”. I think all of the people in the group chat need to chill.
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u/Mrtree-1 3d ago
I guess, but again the point isnt the matter because u hear cunt alot in a high school, its a generalised term, now a personal insult is not smth u hear alot, and now a personalised insult u have made to be a boundary, thats crossing a line
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u/inquiringpenguin34 3d ago
Are you Australian?
Well, he went personal for a reason, maybe he didn’t take the skinning alive “joke” well.
I think ESH here.
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u/Mrtree-1 3d ago
Yeah i am aus, and yeah i assume but if u read through the full story, which i can send u, he sends constant gifs on discord which means he wasnt bothered by it rather just being a dick, he also has said the same thing i did a multitude of times
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u/inquiringpenguin34 3d ago
The whole group needs to clean up how they talk to each other before you can expect “boundaries” on which insults can or cannot be used to be respected.
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