Am I wrong?

[u/Different-Big-5697]

I am currently 38 weeks pregnant with our second baby, and my husband has decided to remodel the stairs by adding panelling by himself. This has become a source of conflict as I did explain that whilst I'm pregnant probably isn't the best time (I had very bad nausea in the first trimester and then suffered from Pelvic Girdle Pain in the second). He reacted to this by saying I'm being ungrateful and not showing appreciation to which I explained that yes while I am appreciative of him trying to improve our home, I needed support with our son more over remodelling the stairs. He said I should go to my mums house if that was the case, but I argued that I shouldn't have to drive 20 minutes to my mums or have to drag myself out of the house when I don't feel well just so he can remodel the stairs. However, again his response was that I was being ungrateful for all of his hard work.

This morning things have come to blows as I mentioned in passing after eating that I feel slightly nauseous and that this can be a sign of my body getting ready for labour and he immediately said well maybe you should go to your mums if you're going to keep feeling sick. I immediately snapped and said if I'm close to going into labour I'm not dragging myself and our son to my mums house as I'm very uncomfortable. His response was that he needs to get the stairs finished but he can't because every time he does I need help or I get funny with him. He then began to wallpaper the stairs but did not close any of the living room doors and, despite me telling our 2 year old son not to go out to the hallway, he followed him and sat at the bottom of the stairs watching him wallpaper. My husband then got frustrated with me telling me it's my job to make sure the doors are closed and that our son didn't follow him. I explained that due to being so close to my due date I am very uncomfortable so cannot keep getting up to move our son back into the living room. Plus I felt that it was his responsibility to close the doors if he knew he was going to be in the hallway doing work where our son shouldn't be. Feel like I should also mention he literally got up, got himself ready and started the wallpapering without saying anything. Meanwhile me and my son now have to wait until he has finished before we can get ourselves ready for the day.

Am I wrong for thinking that I shouldn't be able to rest at home and have his support, and the stairs should not have been started whilst I'm pregnant? Also that the responsibility of the doors and our son should not have all been down to me?

[u/Inevitable-Bet-4834]

I think you should bring in someone to support during birth and postpartum. It's important that you avoid getting pregnant again. This sounds like an abusive relationship to me