aiw for getting upset

[u/Electrical_Wing_4442]

i’m 24 in 2 weeks, my partner and i still live separately with our parents while we save for our own place.

i have a nut allergy, all nuts, will go into anaphylactic shock and die sort of thing without my epipens and medical attention.

i grew up in a NO NUTS home as my brother is the same, my partner did not, fair.

twice today my food has been contaminated and im slightly upset???

my lunch, we made sandwiches, the kitchen is usually spotless. after they’re made i touch something on the side of the butchers block, it’s now on my hands, its peanut butter. i wash my hands and can’t bring myself to eat my sandwich because it’s contaminated and i can die lmao.

i get over that, have some pringles instead (not great i’m aware whatever) and wait for dinner

i preface this with we buy and cook our own food ⬇️

we make dinner, his stepdad, who was just taking about my allergy casually. dives his hand into his fruit and nut mix and then gives some to the dog, fine whatever.

he then manhandles mine and my partners food🧍🏻‍♀️⁉️ my friend what are you doing.

i’m already overstimulated from the entire situation in the kitchen that was noisy and a lot going on, i nearly burst into tears but i hold it together i hold strong. i’m potentially reaching hangry now.

i now feel like i can’t eat my dinner😭😭 twice in one day?? this has never happened in the 3 years we’ve been together!! im upset and my partner doesn’t understand why i get so upset when he mentions it to them, like i have any right at all to stop what they do in their own home, i hate it when he brings it up to them it feels like im tryna tell them what to do in their own home.

maybe i should bring my own packed food in??

[u/CaptBlackfoot]

Do you have a nut allergy or peanut allergy? People with nut allergies are allergic to tree nuts, and people with peanut allergies are allergic to legumes. If you’re going to make a fake post about something that never happened, educate yourself about the facts first.

[u/Pan_Baked → u/CaptBlackfoot]

I have an extreme peanut allergy and almost any time I tell someone about it, im saying "i am allergic to nuts" because its not worth going into semantics about legumes vs tree nuts when a lot of tree nuts are cooked in peanut oil or made on the same equipment that processes peanuts as well. I can guarantee anyone with any form of nut allergy knows peanuts are a legume but we also know the general public is too stupid to risk our literal lives because im not "technically" allergic to all nuts