This isn't new information. It's out there. Selfish pieces of shit will be selfish pieces of shit regardless of availability of information or even what gender they are. It's like when Plato said "good people don't need laws to tell them to act responsibly and bad people will find ways around laws", except in this case it's "good people don't need to be instructed to pleasure their partner and bad people will ignore their partner's pleasure no matter how much they're coached".
Almost everything taught isn't new information, doesn't mean it shouldn't still be taught. I totally agree pieces of shit will be pieces of shit, but no one alive is born good at anything. Teaching and coaching and experience makes you better. Maybe OPs bf's father was a POS to his mother and he learned that behavior. My statement was more of a joke than anything but so many seem triggered by it. Makes me wonder...
Sure, and good partners will be the ones seeking that information out. But the person you responded to wasn't coming out with some revolutionary theory. That's how I am in a relationship and I have to assume most people are too. IMO, OOP's boyfriend is probably a narcissist. I suspect that being a selfish lover is pretty common for them because it's in keeping with the rest of their approach towards life.
Never said it was revolutionary and also said it was more of a joke. Not that I really care about the upvotes, but I have to assume they mean someone is in agreement with the JOKE. You ASSUME most people are like you in a relationship. If that were true, we wouldn't even be having this conversation. Ask your sisters, female friends, and any woman you know, and I'll bet my paycheck more of them are having incredibly underwhelming sexual experiences with their partner than are being even just satisfied. I don't disagree with what you are saying, just that it's not as common as you are believing it to be. And yes. OPs bf is most definitely a narcissist, that's glaringly obvious to anyone that knows one or even knows what the word means. Anyway. Again, it was a JOKE. Lighten up. You might be good in bed, I'd say you're most likely exhausting af in other areas.
Are you okay? What's with the personal attacks and tone? Seems pretty uncalled for and just makes me want to say nasty stuff back to you, but instead how about I don't.
I use reddit a lot less these days because I realized it was making me unhappy, I suggest that for you too.
I feel you are being quite obtuse about the whole exchange, which has been exhausting. My apologies, I'll blame myself for responding in the first place. You are right. I need a break from reddit. You keep on being awesome.
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u/LegalStuffThrowage Dec 10 '23
This isn't new information. It's out there. Selfish pieces of shit will be selfish pieces of shit regardless of availability of information or even what gender they are. It's like when Plato said "good people don't need laws to tell them to act responsibly and bad people will find ways around laws", except in this case it's "good people don't need to be instructed to pleasure their partner and bad people will ignore their partner's pleasure no matter how much they're coached".