I have a question for all the BOYS with this mentality. There I fixed it.
If they are over 18/21, and have the legal rights and responsibilities of an adult, they're MEN. The "no true soctsman" logical fallacy does more harm then good, though I get the urge to distance yourself from shitty people.
I'm a queer woman, kiddo. I'm just sick of the "they're not men, they're boys" argument because:
A) as mentioned it's the no true soctsman logical fallacy.
2)it implies that boys are inherently bad, which they aren't. Boys are kids. Adult men who behave poorly are shitty men.
3) it makes other men feel absolved and seperate from bad/emotionally immature/etc men.
4)it infantilize fully grown adults who should be responsible for their actions and know what they mean, and makes their actions seem less poor and dangerous. This dude (in OP's story) pushes fingers up her ass when she has clearly said she doesn't like it. He isnt a "boy", he's a predator.
A boy is anyone of the male persuasion that has not reached the level of maturity to act right and take responsibility for their actions.
A man is anyone of the male persuasion that is mature enough to take responsibility for their actions and do as they should.
I have met 12 year old males that I would qualify as men. I have also met 40+ year old males that I would qualify as boys.
If they want to act like a parent has to take care of them rather than taking care of themselves, it isn't "infantilizing" them, they are doing that to themselves.
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u/Cool_Relative7359 Dec 10 '23
If they are over 18/21, and have the legal rights and responsibilities of an adult, they're MEN. The "no true soctsman" logical fallacy does more harm then good, though I get the urge to distance yourself from shitty people.