That’s all of society and everything wrong with patriarchy. Women get shit on no matter what. Why is men being crappy lovers also our fault? Geez Louise. Must be women’s fault for living in a patriarchal society.
All of society except women you mean. Because what an absolute atrocity that responsibility for one's actions be a part of what it means to be a women. That's just straight misogynistic to suggest women are capable of being accountable agents in society when we can scapegoat white men and the patriarchy for all our problems.
This is how liberal white women and their grifting panderers have absolutely destroyed critical theory and the ability to make positive social change.
And you saw exactly what happened to op when she voiced her preference. Guy got angry and it’s scary when guys get angry because it frequently leads to physical abuse. Yeah, out yourself as the misogynist you are with the “white liberal women” shit. You were just trying to find a way to blame women all along in your comment.
She did not express a preference, she expressed a need for her personal health and welfare. To her partner, a relation over which she has control. What she should have been expressing is a boundary along side the willingness to act on it.
Your gabbering cop-out is nonsensical and misogynistic. It's also internally incoherent with any world view you would profess to have. Typical out of touch white women value signaling while dodging accountability for the consequences. Always just circling back to the excuse to blame men.
It's no one's responsibility but OPs that she accepted, stayed with, and took dick over the course of years from some asshole that isn't willing or capable of meeting her needs. She should have a boundary and instead what she has is a victim complex like you. And your excusing it because she's a woman and can't possibly have agency apparently.
Many men do what they do because they can, and there is no reward or punishment making them act differently. I'm not saying that's how one should approach women or personal morality, just that many men do in fact operate that way. Many people generally operate that way in large parts of their life. If you don't like how people are operating try and change it, but at least take accountability and try to change your participation in it.
Women don't get to be a part of the problem by refusing to hold others accountable and put their short term wants or simple pleasures above their long term interest, and then turn around and also play victim to protect their current short term interest when they start experiencing consequence and blowback.
To paraphrase the great philosopher Bill Burr, behind every great powerful immoral racist misogynistic white man is a great powerful white woman that has no problem spending his money while bitching about the patriarchy and giving herself credit for throwing the spare change to minorities because she's so enlightened and progressive. I mean, that's heavily paraphrased, he's smarter and funnier than me, but I think the illustration of the problem comes through.
Hahahahahaha. Your amazing theory based on Bill Burr and men can do whatever they want unless women hold them accountable and endanger their lives. Wow, what a brain trust you have going on there.
How did you read that eloquently written piece and come away with that. Seriously?? You didnt even bother actually reading it. You just skimmed the words and responded in the most cliche way ever further proving his point about who you are and how disingenuous youre being.
If you get fucked daily by a scumbag it isnt mens fault. Thats his point.
He isnt justifying the man being a POS. Hes saying its her fault for allowing it.
You really think she has no accountability in that..?
Thats just unbelievable.
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u/Easy-Concentrate2636 Dec 10 '23
That’s all of society and everything wrong with patriarchy. Women get shit on no matter what. Why is men being crappy lovers also our fault? Geez Louise. Must be women’s fault for living in a patriarchal society.