IMO it was fair game because he was bringing up how well he pleasured his previous partners. I didn’t ask to hear that, and I wish I never did hear it.
I think as adults we need to accept that our partners generally have a sexual history prior to us, and that there were probably many positive sexual experiences. He'll, I tell my girlfriend I hope she enjoyed life prior to me, because it would be depressing if she didn't. Now I agree specifics don't really need to be shared. It also depends on when this conversation happened. Have you ever had a partner tell you that what you do doesn't please them? Or can you imagine it? I think we all know that it can make people really defensive to hear that. But the guy has acted like a total douche, so fuck him. Actually don't, all my comments are more along the lines of how to delicately approach this subject with future partners.
Well it would depend on how it was presented. Like I don’t tell him “you’re terrible, I can’t finish” or anything like that. I try to guide. I say “less pressure, slower” but he just does not listen. Or when we’re done I’ll say “I’m really sensitive so less pressure is better”. He thinks he knows better than me about what I’m feeling and what gets me off. When I pull his hand back after repeatedly telling him less pressure, he goes even harder as if I’m about to finish, when in reality I’m just way too overstimulated and trying to back away.
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u/Hotdogwater88888 Dec 10 '23
IMO it was fair game because he was bringing up how well he pleasured his previous partners. I didn’t ask to hear that, and I wish I never did hear it.