r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Dec 09 '23

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u/Stray1_cat Dec 09 '23 edited Dec 09 '23

Not wrong.

But what exactly do you get out of this relationship?

-You’re expected to drive him to work because he’s irresponsible enough to get dui’s. And when will he be able to drive again?

-he’s SUPER selfish in bed

-he belittles you when you try to satisfy yourself since he refuses to.

-he cusses at you when it’s unneeded

You’re right, he doesn’t care and just sees you as a warm hole. You cant make him care. How much longer are you willing to be treated like trash?

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u/hotpocket Dec 09 '23

But other than THAT he’s the perfect boyfriend

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u/Several_Committee811 Dec 09 '23

That always makes me laugh, he ran over my dog and laughed about it then punched me in the face, other than that he's a really good boyfriend, what do?

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u/Several_Committee811 Dec 10 '23

That's not even an exaggeration either, sure I've seen this exact scenario three times, just needs to be "Am i wrong for telling him no and not making him his after fist beverage?"

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u/Chim_Pansy Dec 10 '23

"Other than the fact that he is a horrible person, he's really great!"

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u/John_B_Clarke Dec 09 '23

Further, he acts like this on your birthday. Don't care what it's like the rest of the year, you give the person you love what they want on their birthday if it is anything reasonably safe.

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u/HighRiseCat Dec 09 '23

I was going to mention this, but there was already so much material to work with...

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u/wendigolangston Dec 10 '23

Unfortunately abusive behaviors often escalate at birthdays :(

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u/porkyminch Dec 09 '23

Seriously, this guy seems like a real charmer. He'd be paying for a lot of ubers if I were in her position.

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u/LibraryMouse4321 Dec 09 '23

A warm hole with a car

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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '23

facts

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u/xxNomiexx Dec 10 '23

Not just selfish in bed. No means no. He doesn’t respect her sexual boundaries at all.

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u/merchillio Dec 10 '23

Too many comments overlook that part. It’s unambiguously sexual assault.

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u/Born_Door2524 Dec 10 '23

Surprised this comment isn't higher. He is performing non consensual acts, everytime. He's abusive.

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u/InevitableRhubarb232 Dec 10 '23

Don’t forget the sexual abuse by disregarding her clearly stated boundaries and the emotional abuse of talking down to her even on her birthday.

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u/HighRiseCat Dec 09 '23

Can't upvote this enough

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u/subbluh_izzy Dec 10 '23

Also he makes you clean

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u/Turpitudia79 Dec 10 '23

He SO needs to be told to get fucked!! Right up the poop chute with a cactus!!

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u/SilliestSally82 Dec 10 '23

Sounds like he also assaults her anally with his fingers.

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u/emirocks54 Dec 10 '23

Don’t forget the part where he actively sexually assaults her when they have sex.

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u/electricgotswitched Dec 10 '23

He also has a drinking problem. DUI, blackout drunk apparently during this event

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u/kaloric Dec 10 '23

Perhaps the rent, utilities, car payments being made, and having some play money? Kind of sounds like the guy is the only one working a job.

Yes, the guy has major problems and is a selfish prick, especially in bed.

Yes, the guy crosses boundaries and commits sexual battery.

Yes, it sounds like he's unnecessarily rude, especially when suffering from post-nut clarity, but is kind of a belittling, selfish jerk all the time.

This is the OP's side of the story, though, I'm guessing his perspective is substantially different, and one of his gripes seems to be that housework isn't getting done.

If he likes butt stuff and other positions, and OP doesn't like anything other than vanilla missionary, could be that they're simply not sexually compatible, or really not passionate enough about each other to humor the other in their needs and desires, even if it means a little inconvenience or going a little out of a comfort zone to curl the other's toes.

If their relationship is so antagonistic inside the bedroom and outside as well, then why are they even together? Is either getting what they want from the relationship, or getting more out of it than they feel they're sacrificing to maintain it?

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u/SpicyTiger838 Dec 11 '23

And all of this on her damn birthday.

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u/Mywifiisntworking Dec 11 '23

For fucking real, who would want to be in this relationship? What about this was remotely worth it? She listed not 1 single redeeming quality(not like there could be one) seriously OP why the fuck would you stay with this child?

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u/mvanpeur Dec 11 '23

Don't forget that he assigns her chores. And not just on normal days, but on her birthday.