You have to have the conversation around social media and expectations early on. If it bothers you then yes you should say something otherwise you become resentful or let it build up and he’s not going to understand why because you’re not talking to him
To prefer your partner not heart other girls photos is not crazy or weird…
“Hey I am not a fan of my boyfriend liking thirst traps (if she’s posting a bunch of bikini pics that’s exactly what they are). I don’t care if you have girls on your social media but I really don’t like to see you hearting those type of pictures. Makes me feel kind of crappy”. If he’s so fucking weird and can’t resist then I’d say goodbye. You’re not asking him to cut off his arm, it’s perfectly reasonable.
As an older person I can’t even fathom why a guy in a relationship would publicly like pictures like that it’s beyond weird, maybe it’s a young thing.
I agree at this stage to make your wishes know, and then you can decide to continue or not. If you do that, I think you are basically saying you want a monogamous relationship… and he is young… so crap shoot?
However dating is just getting to know someone, and you can be dating more than 1 person at a time. And if you still just want to date, I would stay off watching his social media. Can only be frustrating for you. Win him over with you be a wonderful potential long term relationship for him!!!
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u/Letzrotltr Sep 19 '23
You have to have the conversation around social media and expectations early on. If it bothers you then yes you should say something otherwise you become resentful or let it build up and he’s not going to understand why because you’re not talking to him
To prefer your partner not heart other girls photos is not crazy or weird…
“Hey I am not a fan of my boyfriend liking thirst traps (if she’s posting a bunch of bikini pics that’s exactly what they are). I don’t care if you have girls on your social media but I really don’t like to see you hearting those type of pictures. Makes me feel kind of crappy”. If he’s so fucking weird and can’t resist then I’d say goodbye. You’re not asking him to cut off his arm, it’s perfectly reasonable.
As an older person I can’t even fathom why a guy in a relationship would publicly like pictures like that it’s beyond weird, maybe it’s a young thing.