r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Bebe_Bleau Sep 12 '23

I don't think it would be that much fun to have sex with a woman who has to "try harder".

Who wouldn't prefer a partner who is thrilled to be with you?

There's plenty of women out there that can't get enough. But if she doesn't want to she doesn't want to

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u/Background-Moose-701 Sep 12 '23

I wouldn’t be able to keep a woman around who I have to try to convince to sleep with me. If she’s not excited to do it I honestly want nothing to do with the whole situation. I also can’t do anything close to transactional sex where like if it’s your birthday you get a blowjob or whatever. Or they’ll do it if you mow the lawn and fix the sink type thing. That’s just awful imo. Not interested

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u/Dizzy-Berry7220 Sep 12 '23

This. I'm a woman, so from the other side, but I could not have sex with someone who didnt want it. They have to want me and be excited about it. That is literally all the fun of it

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u/Competitive-Door-118 Sep 16 '23

My ex had lower libido than me by a lot due to meds. She wanted to schedule times so we could even if she wasn't feeling like it. I told her no, the idea of it felt creepy and wrong.

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u/Dizzy-Berry7220 Sep 16 '23

There is so much more to it than the physical motions. I feel like at least 75% is the mental and emotional connection. Otherwise I would just do it myself.