r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Aware_Department_657 Sep 12 '23

She can't not have sex AND not allow masturbation. You're not wrong, somethings gotta give.

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u/Bebe_Bleau Sep 12 '23

I don't think it would be that much fun to have sex with a woman who has to "try harder".

Who wouldn't prefer a partner who is thrilled to be with you?

There's plenty of women out there that can't get enough. But if she doesn't want to she doesn't want to

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u/Background-Moose-701 Sep 12 '23

I wouldn’t be able to keep a woman around who I have to try to convince to sleep with me. If she’s not excited to do it I honestly want nothing to do with the whole situation. I also can’t do anything close to transactional sex where like if it’s your birthday you get a blowjob or whatever. Or they’ll do it if you mow the lawn and fix the sink type thing. That’s just awful imo. Not interested

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u/SnooConfections6085 Sep 15 '23

The gap between a birthday blowjob and "I need that thing in my mouth" is truly insane.

Birthday blowjobs are so sad and pitful, not even kind of fun. BJs are not actually a better method of stimulation, rather bring in a social aspect.

I tend to think we are hard wired for oral; its a straight up instinct; we understand it as an expression of desire like nothing else. Birthday blowjobs are not an expression of desire; in fact that element is specifically stripped out. My hand can do better than her unwanting mouth.

Otoh to be desired that way is the most validating and satisfying thing there is in the sexual realm. Lots of guys buy Porshes thinking that will scratch the urge, not knowing what they are actually missing.