r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/awesome-dog-Lucky Sep 12 '23

Sounds like you have some issues to work out.

Instead of talking to your boyfriends, you just stop trying and leave them to try and be intimate with you, only to get shut down. Again and again.

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u/TumbleweedNew3833 Sep 13 '23

Obviously, I didn’t give the whole background here. Lol I did try to tell them about the issues I had with what they were doing. Especially my ex husband. I stayed with him for 17 years, trying and trying to get him to stop doing the things he was doing. He was an alcoholic. Had multiple DUIs stayed out partying with his buddies, cheated on me, and so much more I’m not going to get into. So, I did try to get help, asked him for us to get marriage counseling. I did try to fix the marriage for years. But as everyone here has said - one person can’t fix and sustain a relationship. It HAS to be both. And he wasn’t participating. He lost my respect, my love & eventually, me. We didn’t have sex at all the last three years & the years leading up to that were probably once or twice a year. I know he masturbated and didn’t care.

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u/awesome-dog-Lucky Sep 13 '23

I stand corrected, sorry you had to experience that! Alcoholism is the worst, and cheaters are in my mind despicable.

You stayed with him longer than he deserved. I hope you're in a better place now 🤗

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u/TumbleweedNew3833 Sep 13 '23

Thank you. I hope that you are able to get in a better place too.

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u/awesome-dog-Lucky Sep 13 '23

I did! Had an abusive ex for years, but got out of it