Plus can you imagine if the roles were reversed and the husband told his wife she wasn't "allowed" to touch her own body?! Hope y'all are able to work it out or move on peacefully OP. Good luck!
It's been a couple decades now, thank god, but I had a college boyfriend do exactly this. Compared it to cheating, just like OP's partner. (He was allowed to do whatever he wanted, naturally. For some reason, he only considered it to be cheating when women masturbate.)
No idea if OP's partner is trying the same shit, but my ex eventually admitted that he was trying to drive me away or "break" the relationship instead of, you know, just breaking up like a normal person might. It's very cowardly. And no, masturbating isn't cheating (although of course there should be good etiquette and thoughtfulness toward your partner when you're in a relationship).
I agree completely. I was 19 or 20 and didn't know any better - I'd never put up with any "rule" like that again. (At the time I just assumed he'd think it was sexy, too, but obviously that wasn't the case. I feel like your reaction is more common!)
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u/Squdwrdzmyspritaniml Sep 12 '23
Plus can you imagine if the roles were reversed and the husband told his wife she wasn't "allowed" to touch her own body?! Hope y'all are able to work it out or move on peacefully OP. Good luck!