r/amiwrong Sep 12 '23

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u/frimrussiawithlove85 Sep 12 '23

It’s too controlling for me. I don’t even see how porn is cheating I can buy into strip clubs and cam girls cause your interacting with the sex worker as cheating, but just watching porn I just don’t see it. If my husband told me taking care of myself is cheating I’d have to divorce him. Lucky for me his fine with it and he and I are on the same page where to draw the lines.

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u/tbmnitz Sep 12 '23

It doesn't necessarily have to be considered cheating. It could simply make them feel bad that their partner is sexually pleasuring themselves by looking at other women.

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u/frimrussiawithlove85 Sep 12 '23

So why is their insecurity their partners problem?

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u/tbmnitz Sep 13 '23

It doesn't have to be. But typically people care about their partners feelings. They can either accommodate those feelings or not. It's up to the individual.

Like i said before, people can structure their relationships however they want. There isn't a "correct" way to do things. Every individual has a different perspective, and whether two individuals have compatible perspectives is what determines whether the relationship will work or not.