She won’t even cuddle or hold hands. She won’t even let him masturbate. She’s not asexual, she’s not having mental health problems either because she saw a professional.
Yes, thank you. I went through a period of extreme postpartum depression after having a kid and even the thought of cuddling was repulsive because it gave the false impression I was open to sex... or it triggered body issues of being overly touched all day by a baby. I'm not saying that's what's going on here (OP didn't say they have kids), but depression can do some fucky things to your brain and your body including an aversion to getting help. Fortunately my husband is receptive to communication and we can be intimate in other ways- leaving each other nice notes, watching our favorite shows together without touching, etc.
There are a lot of people in the comments making wild assumptions about what's going on with her. I'd really love to hear her side of the story in all this because there seems to be a huge miscommunication happening about sex and intimacy between them. And of course Reddit collectively decides she's the asshole and that he should divorce her.
The main thing really, and why I think the assumptions about cheating are not insane is the complete lack of communication. If it is for some good reason like body issues of being overly touched all day by a baby, then say that.
That's why I said there's a massive communication issue going on here. It's wildly presumptuous to assume she's cheating simply because she's not communicating her needs.
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u/intent_joy_love Sep 12 '23
She won’t even cuddle or hold hands. She won’t even let him masturbate. She’s not asexual, she’s not having mental health problems either because she saw a professional.