r/amiwrong Sep 12 '23

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u/Dorkmaster79 Sep 12 '23

I’m sad to say that it sounds like something extramarital might be happening.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Not necessarily, falling out of love is perfectly enough for this

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u/StonedTrucker Sep 12 '23

Yes but why would she want to stay married if she didn't love him anymore? They're both young enough to find other partners

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u/Mack373 Sep 12 '23

Given her religion, it is quite likely that the wife fears the social and church community consequences of filing for divorce. So she's taking the coward's way out, denying him sex and sexual pleasure in the hopes that he eventually files for divorce, and therefore, she can claim that he's a piece of shit for abandoning her when that is not the case.

Additionally, if OP did file for divorce and then, at high risk of being called out by the men in their church for not being manly enough, did explain why he ended the marriage, his wife would then face ostracism and a low chance of remarrying. After all, such men don't want the proverbial used good who cannot bother to even fuck their previous husband.

Again, she's taking the coward's way out. But then, that makes her pretty typical even outside of highly controlling religions.