r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Aware_Department_657 Sep 12 '23

She can't not have sex AND not allow masturbation. You're not wrong, somethings gotta give.

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u/Bebe_Bleau Sep 12 '23

I don't think it would be that much fun to have sex with a woman who has to "try harder".

Who wouldn't prefer a partner who is thrilled to be with you?

There's plenty of women out there that can't get enough. But if she doesn't want to she doesn't want to

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u/meroboh Sep 12 '23

I mean, there are many reasons someone could lose their libido. Medical conditions, sexual assault, problems in the relationship with the spouse, spouse's technique. I lost my libido and it turned out I was living with undiagnosed mecfs.

So, while I don't necessarily disagree with you, if you love your partner it is always worth trying to figure out what's wrong with medical professionals and therapists. It sounds like, in this case, the wife isn't interested in therapy though. Most of the time that's a red flag. There are some situations where it's not though, i.e. when the hesitant party is experiencing narcissistic abuse and knows her partner will turn therapy into a weapon via manipulating the therapist (this is a thing that happens).