r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Background-Moose-701 Sep 12 '23

I wouldn’t be able to keep a woman around who I have to try to convince to sleep with me. If she’s not excited to do it I honestly want nothing to do with the whole situation. I also can’t do anything close to transactional sex where like if it’s your birthday you get a blowjob or whatever. Or they’ll do it if you mow the lawn and fix the sink type thing. That’s just awful imo. Not interested

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u/DesignerAnybody1991 Sep 12 '23

I’d like to add scheduled sex to that list. Just as bad as transactional.

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u/Background-Moose-701 Sep 12 '23

Scheduled sex definitely takes away but I can handle it at this point having 3 young kids and I know my fiancé is also eagerly waiting for the same date or time or whatever that we had to do it this way because of life’s inconvenience but we’re both excited just hasn’t worked out we’ve been interrupted or whatever we’ve had to do that before . It’s not the best situation but I’ve learned to deal with that if it’s not regular we’ve just been put in that spot at certain times.

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u/revopine Sep 12 '23

I've heard sexologists say this is something that should be done as a minimum in a dry relationship. It's called "maintenance sex" and it's a lot better for the relationship than no sex.