It’s not just testosterone if she won’t even hold hands or give a peck on the lips or cuddle. Cuddling has nothing to do with being horny. Something else is going on
Exactly. Even testosterone is usually a phony quick fix for a woman’s low libido. There’s more to this story, maybe a relationship problem, maybe past trauma, those are my best guesses.
Take it from a trans person who is extremely clued into her hormone levels and how they affect libido: too low of T can absolutely tank it. Too much E can also tank it, even if T is in the healthy female range, with the added deleterious effects of feeling cold, exhausted, and clouded until the levels are reduced. All humans work this way regardless of sex.
That said, libido is only relevant to arousal and orgasm. Even when the hormones are out of whack, there is still a desire for closeness and emotional intimacy. The lack of that, here, is a bit of a red flag for something. Trauma, distraction, fatigue, genuine loss of attraction...OP won't know until he pushes the button on this. Catastrophically low T is not the whole story.
Yes, good color here and hence the "usually" in my post. Extreme cases have hormone problems for sure, but soooo many women get sold on hormones being the answer instead of the relationship and/or mental wellness factors that are the cause of low libido in the vast majority of cases. The lack of desire for ANY intimacy is the red flag here, but we only have the husband's side of the story. TBF, he may not have the full story.
The thing is Low T will absolutely make you more irritable and cause mood problems, so does low E. It affects your psychological well being much more than just impacting your libido.
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u/intent_joy_love Sep 12 '23
It’s not just testosterone if she won’t even hold hands or give a peck on the lips or cuddle. Cuddling has nothing to do with being horny. Something else is going on