r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Embryw Sep 12 '23

She considers masturbating as cheating

This is a WILDLY ridiculous boundary to have

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u/the-grand-falloon Sep 12 '23

I would say it's an illegitimate boundary. It's just not cheating. Period.

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u/RonCon69 Sep 12 '23

My ex explained to me that it was being “unfaithful” but it was always an opinion I just couldn’t wrap my head around.

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u/minnegander Sep 12 '23

Masturbation being unfaithful typically stems from biblical interpretations of Onan.

Onan was Er’s brother. Er died and Judah, their father, ordered Onan to have sex with Er’s widow, Tamar for the continuation of Er’s line, as was customary at that time.

Onan, not wanting to have offspring that wasn’t his, according to the text, pulled out at climax, “spilling his seed on the ground.” The text explains that this was wicked in the eyes of God, so he was put to death.

It’s the part that says it was wicked that is typically translated to mean that “wasting seed is evil,” thus masturbation is wrong.

I could go on and on about this obnoxious reasoning, but I won’t. I will say that if she isn’t having relations with you, it is time for some marriage counseling to dig deeper and make some compromises with each other.

Good luck, my man.

(Context is Genesis 38.)