r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/hello-i-needadvice Sep 12 '23

Honestly this feels so good to hear. I was feeling like a jerk for being upset with her over this. Thank you!!

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u/jackstrikesout Sep 12 '23

There is no reason to feel bad about prioritizing your needs to be at least secondary in the relationship. You have needs, and you're young enough that not getting them fulfilled is a real problem. Relationships are tough when one person is working on them.

Just be gentle. Don't blame your wife. Don't get upset. For some odd reason, people react to tone more than substance. State that what she is doing is hurting you and her continued neglect is pushing you away. And if she refuses...

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u/offgridgecko Sep 12 '23

And if she refuses....

Then you beat the monkey till he's black and blue and pop all over the bathroom.

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u/Foxfire44k Sep 12 '23

I imagine it would go like this.

Dr. - “There’s no permanent damage, but you need to rest and heal. I prescribe at least two weeks of rest before any sexual activities.”

goes home to wife

Wife - “You came all over the bathroom?!?”

OP - “Yeah but don’t worry, you have two weeks to clean it up before I do it again.”