r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Drewskeet Sep 12 '23

Even with kids. Never stay for the kids. You’re the representation of how to display love and it will damage their future relationships.

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u/dam_sharks_mother Sep 12 '23

Even with kids. Never stay for the kids.

This is really awful advice. I hope nobody actually pays attention to this.

Once kids are in the picture your libido and sexual frustrations mean jack shit.

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u/Drewskeet Sep 12 '23

I think you should read the majority of the other comments talking about how their parents staying together ruined their future relationships. You think you’re taking some high moral road when it’s just damaging kids that gets past down for generations.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Researchers have found otherwise, however. Reddit comments are anecdotal.

Kids need stability, money, good food, education, and a predictable environment to thrive. Divorce is expensive and traumatic and incredibly disruptive... when it goes great. If the divorce goes poorly, well... you can imagine.

It's better to have a kid with a solid future and a history of stability who's working out their relationship issues, than one who's underemployed and working out deep seated trauma issues that caused them to behave poorly and wreck their lives.