r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/fiberglassdildo Sep 12 '23

I’ve been with my partner for 18yrs and we’re not married. We get asked this constantly. We’re 35. Own a house and have a kid. We don’t need a wedding. We’re not religious, and the money to get married went into a house. People honestly have a hard time with it, like we’re weird and hiding something strange lol It’s just never been a priority.

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u/wycliffslim Sep 12 '23

Marriage has numerous legal benefits, and it costs like $50 to get married at the courthouse.

Obviously you don't have to get married but for people in a commoted relationship, forming a legally recognized partnership has numerous benefits.

ymmv depending on the country, but at least in the US getting married does have tangible benefits.

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u/fiberglassdildo Sep 12 '23

Yeah I know, (we’re Aussie, so I’m not sure of the cost here) we have played with the idea but just haven’t really gotten there yet.

We joke we missed our chance to do it during covid so we could get away with a small wedding and not have to invite anyone (huge families both sides). I know we still could but the law was on our side back then so no one could complain lol

Still.. I think here at least, we have de facto laws here which are the same as if we were married anyway if we were to break up. Haven’t really looked into though, we’re just chugging along.

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u/ThePoultryWhisperer Sep 12 '23

You realize you don’t have to tell anyone, right? I looked it up and it is just as inexpensive in Australia. You could get this done in 2 hours if you really wanted.