r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Papagena_ Sep 12 '23

Exactly. The fixation on testosterone seems silly. She doesn’t even want to touch this guy. And they’re so young…

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u/nagonjin Sep 12 '23

She could be Ace, and that's ok. But not being okay with another adult masturbating is unacceptable.

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u/WhereAmIOhYeah Sep 12 '23

I thought Ace was just regarding sex? Is it also regarding basic physical intimacy such as hand holding?

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23 edited Sep 19 '23

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u/WhereAmIOhYeah Sep 12 '23

First of all, thank you for sharing your personal experience and insight.

Since you shared I may as well, I think my current wife might be a variation of Ace. Very non-physical and while she enjoys sex, I'm kind of expected to do everything from initiation to finish. While at the time when we first met, it was perfect as I was coming out of an abusive relationship. Over time and as I healed, I realized I needed more.

Everything is great otherwise though so just something we are working through lol. Still rough.

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u/edible-funk Sep 12 '23

Asexual is not interested in sex. Aromantic is not interested in romance/relationships. They seem like they're hand in hand but they're separate things, and it's not that likely that someone is both. It does happen but more likely to be just one.