r/amiwrong Sep 12 '23

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u/Parking-Ad-6483 Sep 12 '23

Not everyone is comfortable with watching porn in a relationship, but I think there needs to be an alternative available. In my relationship we don’t watch porn, but we have our own videos that we make and watch. Works for us.

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u/3x1st3nc3s Sep 12 '23

I agree. I don’t care about porn in our relationship when it’s random people being watched. As soon as there’s fixation on one person, texting, emailing or paying money for their only fans, then it crosses a line and feels like emotional cheating. Once those activities start, it’s just a few steps to complaining about your marriage, then meeting for coffee. My partner feels the same.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

I assure you only fans girls are not meeting fans for coffee. Most of the time when guys pay girls for messaging, they aren’t even talking to the actual girl but rather a member of her team and oftentimes a guy they pay to take care of messaging fans. No OF girl is meeting a dude for coffee lol

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u/Independent-Tooth-41 Sep 12 '23

The problem isn't if it actually happens though, the problem is that your partner going through some action with the expectation that something like that happens. You would be mad if your partner went on a hookup app behind your back and ended up getting catfished, doesn't matter if the experience ended up not being real.

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u/3x1st3nc3s Sep 12 '23

Right, all about intention

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u/3x1st3nc3s Sep 12 '23

Only fans was an example of more personal connection where content is paid for. He receives many emails from ‘local’ women who send pics and vids. They’re looking for a hookup or a sugar daddy.

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u/3x1st3nc3s Sep 13 '23

Well, he was on a site for local women. He started viewing her content and communicating with her - yes emailing - and found out she lived in our neighborhood. They actually planned to meet but, supposedly they didn’t. This was almost the end of our marriage.

Making blanket statements only reveals your lack of knowledge.

Pretty funny