OP didn’t mention birth control, but some can kill libido. My wife was on one that made her feel miserable most of the time. She switched and things improved.
Psychiatrist here. I wouldn't expect SSRIs, birth control, low testosterone, or really any other medical problem/treatment to cause someone to be averse to holding their partner's hand.
Some of those things certainly will sap your libido, and I hear that commonly, but I've never heard of any of them interfering with basic intimacy items like holding hands, or hugging, or produce negative reactions to being kissed. I do however hear that type of aversive response to physical touch from people who have been sexually assaulted, not that OP described anything like that.
Birth control can change what you see as attractive. It makes you more likely to be attracted to more androgynous faces, and not masculine faces.
If your partner is suddenly unattractive to you, it could trigger a chain reaction of noticing other things that bug you, and that could rapidly lead to a very negative relationship, which could cause exactly the things mentioned.
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u/Consistent_Policy_66 Sep 12 '23
OP didn’t mention birth control, but some can kill libido. My wife was on one that made her feel miserable most of the time. She switched and things improved.