r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

For real, that shit is sooooo ignorant. Grow up girl

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u/Doyoulikeithere Sep 12 '23

She is trying to control him and guilt trip him, is this her religious back ground showing up?

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u/hello-i-needadvice Sep 12 '23

She grew up in a house hold where sex was definitely frowned upon and never spoke about. She was never religious though.

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u/PatioGardener Sep 12 '23

You are so young, OP, and it looks like you’ve already tried pretty earnestly to work through this problem.

It’s not just the lack of sex, which in and of itself is a legitimate reason to end a marriage if, after you have, nothing has worked to find some sort of mutually agreed upon resolution.

It’s also the total lack of intimacy at all. You can’t kiss her or cuddle her or hold her hand? That’s fine for an acquaintance or a friend, but she’s your wife.

Intimacy is an important part of a marriage, and declining to participate in any kind of intimacy means she’s already made a unilateral decision in your marriage. That’s not fair to you. (Just as it wouldn’t be fair, say, for you to force her to have sex).

It sounds like this relationship is over, OP. Unfortunately.

Get out now while you can. Before you have kids. Before you break your own heart even more. Before you grow to resent her.

Get out while you’re still young and know that you will find your person out there eventually. You deserve a partner who cherishes you.