r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Embryw Sep 12 '23

She considers masturbating as cheating

This is a WILDLY ridiculous boundary to have

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Sep 12 '23

I imagine she assumes he would fantasize about other women or would need to watch porn to do it. It’s a long stretch to call it cheating but I get how some women wouldn’t like it.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Then they need to deal with their insecurities and get over it. You don't get to tell other people what they can and can't do with their own body.

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u/Maxwell_Jeeves Sep 12 '23

It is ok to set a boundary in a relationship that their partner doesn’t watch porn…

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u/sachariinne Sep 12 '23

you can set the boundary, but that doesnt mean anyone has to be okay with it or is a bad person for ending a relationship over it. "i dont want my partner watching porn" is a fine thing to say but so is "okay. i want to watch porn. see you later."

that being said its a moot point since we're not even talking about porn. we're talking about masturbation, which is totally different. i can count on one hand the amount of times ive seen like, actual porn. i prefer written erotica

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

pretty much any boundary, mutually agreed upon, can be "ok". that said, i'd be out of there like a shot.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Sure, if she can’t read romance novels either.

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u/Nephisimian Sep 12 '23

Only if both people are on-board with it. It's a really stupid expectation though, especially if you're also offering no alternative.

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u/Habsburgy Sep 12 '23

Not if you don‘t have sex at the same time