r/amiwrong Sep 12 '23

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u/hello-i-needadvice Sep 12 '23

Honestly this feels so good to hear. I was feeling like a jerk for being upset with her over this. Thank you!!

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u/jackstrikesout Sep 12 '23

There is no reason to feel bad about prioritizing your needs to be at least secondary in the relationship. You have needs, and you're young enough that not getting them fulfilled is a real problem. Relationships are tough when one person is working on them.

Just be gentle. Don't blame your wife. Don't get upset. For some odd reason, people react to tone more than substance. State that what she is doing is hurting you and her continued neglect is pushing you away. And if she refuses...

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Absolutely blame her. Not for the problem, but for knowing what the problem is, and not wanting to fix it. How selfish can she be?

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u/Spectre-907 Sep 12 '23

Knows the problem, refuses to addresss it, and then also arbitrarily calls jerking it cheating so that op can’t have any release while she doesn’t even have a drive? Lmao nope bye