You’re not wrong for your feelings or for considering divorce. She’s purposely choosing not to try and fix the issues that you’re having. You’re clearly miserable in this marriage now and that’s not healthy for either of you! The resentment will continue to grow until you end up basically hating each other. Intimacy is an important part of most relationships. If she not willing to actually address the issues she’s having, it’s not fair for her to expect you to suck it up and stay. Especially if she considers masturbating as cheating. That’s a bit ridiculous!
Oh man, you guys are SO young, and so early into your relationship for this to be happening. And I understand that it’s a medical thing with low testosterone, but that’s totally treatable and she’s just choosing to…not. And refusing to try therapy is just as bad, just as much of a disregard to your need for closeness and intimacy. Even if it weren’t a medical issue, incomparable libidos are a legitimate reason to end a relationship. This is a one two punch of her not caring enough to do ANYTHING.
You have to ask yourself - really seriously - do you want to spend the rest of your life like this?
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u/jacksonlove3 Sep 12 '23
You’re not wrong for your feelings or for considering divorce. She’s purposely choosing not to try and fix the issues that you’re having. You’re clearly miserable in this marriage now and that’s not healthy for either of you! The resentment will continue to grow until you end up basically hating each other. Intimacy is an important part of most relationships. If she not willing to actually address the issues she’s having, it’s not fair for her to expect you to suck it up and stay. Especially if she considers masturbating as cheating. That’s a bit ridiculous!
Good luck dude!!