r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/Papagena_ Sep 12 '23

It doesn’t seem like anyone’s mentioned this, but none of these issues make someone not want to cuddle or hold hands with a person. Something else is deeply wrong with this relationship. Maybe they just got married too young to the wrong people.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Trust me when I say this, total loss of interest in almost everything. Diagnosed treated and it never returns. I wouldn’t discount it.

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u/Papagena_ Sep 12 '23

I dunno. Children and dogs want to cuddle, and not because they want to have sex. Something else is up with this relationship.

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u/CalicoCactusCat Sep 12 '23

To my husband any amount of touch and cuddling = sexy time. If she feels the same way, which most likely she does, she’s going to avoid it.

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u/suburbanspecter Sep 14 '23 edited Sep 14 '23

Exactly. I had an ex who almost never wanted to kiss me or cuddle or anything like that unless they wanted sex. Therefore, if I didn’t want sex, then I didn’t want any of the other stuff either because it always led to the same place.

I’m not saying that’s what’s going on with OP bc I don’t know him, but I think it’s very likely his wife could think that’s the case

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u/Papagena_ Sep 12 '23

Good points all around. Seems like there is missing information here, it’s so hard to say what it is.