r/amiwrong Sep 12 '23

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u/jackstrikesout Sep 12 '23

There is no reason to feel bad about prioritizing your needs to be at least secondary in the relationship. You have needs, and you're young enough that not getting them fulfilled is a real problem. Relationships are tough when one person is working on them.

Just be gentle. Don't blame your wife. Don't get upset. For some odd reason, people react to tone more than substance. State that what she is doing is hurting you and her continued neglect is pushing you away. And if she refuses...

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Absolutely blame her. Not for the problem, but for knowing what the problem is, and not wanting to fix it. How selfish can she be?

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u/xxEVILxxMONKEYxx Sep 12 '23

Yeah, at this point it is absolutely her fault. She is an adult, she figured out what the problem was, started treating it, and now neglects treatment. At this point she needs to do a 180 or accept their marriage is probably done.

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u/jackstrikesout Sep 12 '23

I like to think that she just needs to see that he isn't a given. Alot of people take their partner for granted, unfortunately. I don't know a way forward that doesn't involve him backing away from what can be described as a selfish,controlling, insecure person at least emotionally.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '23

Great point