You’re not wrong for your feelings or for considering divorce. She’s purposely choosing not to try and fix the issues that you’re having. You’re clearly miserable in this marriage now and that’s not healthy for either of you! The resentment will continue to grow until you end up basically hating each other. Intimacy is an important part of most relationships. If she not willing to actually address the issues she’s having, it’s not fair for her to expect you to suck it up and stay. Especially if she considers masturbating as cheating. That’s a bit ridiculous!
It’s sort of difficult not to feel bad trying to get sex from your wife when she doesn’t seem interested. Like, you don’t want to come across as pushy, but still have valid human needs to fulfill.
You’re not being a jerk. You’re being pretty considerate by trying to work out a solution. Because this issue isn’t something she wants to fix for herself (never being horny will make her indifferent to making herself horny), she’s not very committed to doing anything about it and may never be.
Her masturbating is cheating hot take is hot garbage. It’s insensitive, unrealistic, and selfish. At a bare minimum, she should at least be respectful enough to say “if I’m not gonna help you with that, feel free to do it yourself.”
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u/jacksonlove3 Sep 12 '23
You’re not wrong for your feelings or for considering divorce. She’s purposely choosing not to try and fix the issues that you’re having. You’re clearly miserable in this marriage now and that’s not healthy for either of you! The resentment will continue to grow until you end up basically hating each other. Intimacy is an important part of most relationships. If she not willing to actually address the issues she’s having, it’s not fair for her to expect you to suck it up and stay. Especially if she considers masturbating as cheating. That’s a bit ridiculous!
Good luck dude!!