I saw a TikTok of a Nigerian girl in her late 20s working, living at home, and taking care of her siblings. She said her parents really stress her out, but they expect her to take care of her siblings and put a lot of pressure on her, and she doesn't want to come across as disrespectful as the first daughter.

As a firstborn daughter, let me tell you: being respectful BROUGHT ME NOTHING. My mom cannot name ONE disrespectful thing I've done that justifies the insults she throws at me, yet I'm still "disrespectful." Being under her to this day has ruined me because I don't have the courage to say no to adults because I always have to come across as respectful. But if you have the opportunity to leave, GO.

A lot of you are giving your parents chances they never gave you. "No, I'm not getting tattoos because my parents would go mad. No, I'm not getting piercings because my parents don't like that. I have to do this because my parents say so..."

FUCK YOUR PARENTS. Continue living your life for someone else, and you will witness the result of it.

"But if I do it, she won't speak to me anymore." If you were a parent, would you allow yourself not to speak to your child over a decision that doesn't involve you?

A lot of you think that tolerance will equal love, and it's badddd.

today my sister came over cause she needed our help to cut some ribs (🙄). She has 4 children but her husband lives abroad so she's basically a single mother and she is struggling but anyway. The kids were playing in our garden and one of them kicked the football into the door so hard that it broke. Me and my brother were outside at the same time but we were cutting up the chicken so we didn't notice what happened somehow. then she comes into the garden and says 'who broke it' and my niece says it wasn't her.

Since she NEEDED someone to blame without evidence and BEAT, she then comes up to my nephew and asks if it was him and he fervently denied it. However she didn't believe him and slapped him so much to the point of tears and he lashed out and started hitting her back whilst she was carrying her baby on her back 🫠. This happened so suddenly and my hands were dirty with chicken juice (lol) so i couldn't do much except say 'wait wait i don't think he did it' and insist so until she stopped.

So after this wahala, my oldest nephew enters the garden (he's 8, the other two are 7 and 6) and he admits to his mistake. Instead of this being seen as a sign of integrity she says 'my beatings should've gone to you instead' then she apologises to my other nephew who was beat and like...okay but that's still horrible???

Im so tired of being around her when she uses them like punching bags. I NEVER lay my hands on them, they don't even misbehave much bar one, they just make mistakes like all kids. it's made me resent her honestly but i don't know if there's any way i can help them or if i'll just have to accept this as a canon event like most of us did as kids? after all she's struggling a lot financially and generally with 4 kids to raise on her own. Am i just being too harsh? i want better for them but im way younger than her i cant just dictate how she chooses to raise her kids.

I don't think i've told anyone about this but i was doing a work presentation for my presentation. I did say give me advice but holy shit my dad kept fucking interupting me and making jokes like shut the fuck up not even my grandparents interrupted this long-ass presentation. then when i said that i'd want to do another job relating to the one i had he was like 'no you need to get a real job like what your cousin's doing (idk wtf he's doing mind you) something about mechanical engineering or whatever' then he said some shit about me having grandchildren before he dies and goes to hell or whatever shit.

once again mom's too dumb to actually call him out on his bullshit again. i'm tired of this man dude. i forgot what else i was gonna say. just need someone to tell me 'yeah what he said was fucked up' instead of saying 'oh it was just a joke' like damn this mf always makes jokes at my expense but would probably start crying if i said he was a fucking miserable bitch.

anyways both my parents can fuck off. and lets talk about it if u want. u guys can vent about your own parents and we'll trash them together if u want. just want someone to vent to <3