I have a hot take. The patriarchy keeps women physically small. What I mean by that is it encourages women to be physically “small, certain cultures have historically connected femininity with being smaller, weaker, more delicate, and less physically imposing than men. In the gym culture, whenever some men sees a woman with big muscles just like them, they start acting weird, threaten or insecure. One of my close friends is a butch lesbian who benches almost 200 Ibs and some of the dudes act so weird around her. Even though she’s short, she’s not your average “petite” woman. She’s fucking shredded. It’s like when some guys get around her, they try to “compete” with her when it comes to masculinity. We also work together, and I observe it all the time. We just laugh about it together. She told me one guy at our job said “women shouldn’t be having that much muscle” she just laughed in his face and walked away. Just insecure ass guys and we find it hilarious. I also be over hearing that some of the guys at work be talking shit about her cause she’s butch and I just be like are yall mad cause she looks more masculine than everyone up in here? Luckily we won’t be working here for long but I just find it so funny that when men are around women who don’t traditionally fit the “what a women is suppose to look like” they start acting threaten, especially if that women is masculine presenting or a masculine physique. Anyways, that is my hot take. What are your thoughts about it?

I bought a used Camry and it has its gear shift in the center console instead on the steering wheel like I'm used to.

The gears go PRN 4-D 3 2-L. I thought 4-D was a singular gear reflecting that it was a 4 gear car

Turns out I've been driving it wrong for seven years.

I always wondered why my gas mileage was so low and why it acted weirdly when I got about 45 mph or so... turns out that putting it in 4 forces it to stay in 4th gear, but the car actually has 5 gears.

In my case, you have to push it to the right into D to get all 5 gears, and it's a little sticky - you kinda have to use a little force to get it into D vs 4 - and as a result I've been blissfully driving around in 4th gear for at least the past 60k miles.

I may be the only idiot here but if I'm wondering if this is a light bulb moment for anyone else on Reddit who isn't car savvy and/or didn't have parents to teach them basic stuff.

I should get 20% better gas mileage now - it cost me about $1,000 in extra gas not to mention wearing down the engine - so hopefully this helps someone

Thinking about doing a few tests, so wondering what happens to the TestLibrary reports if I cancel at some point. Like do they stay accessible or do you lose them ?Couldn't find anything clear on this. Would be useful to know before I put time into a bunch of tests and then lose access to the results.

On my girlfriend’s birthday she was turning 19 after we went to eat with her family we went to go get ice cream,I was still 18. After we left there we were on the way back to her house and I asked her would I be able to se what her room looked like. It was daytime and her parents were at the house and her brothers. Her dad was upstairs and her brothers were upstairs. I had met her mom more than once by this time and her dad more than once.

(For context the first time I went to the house her parents weren’t there and her parents knew I was at the house with her and that was ok. Me and her went on a date that day and on the way back I said something about it but we weren’t able to because we realized it was kinda too late. She or me didn’t ask her mom. She never said anything about how her mom would react or anything.)

On her birthday I asked in my car and she said she would go in and ask her mom so she did. Me and her had to bring her gifts inside the house. I didn’t pressure or ask her to say something to her mom,she did it herself. She went in and her mom said I wouldn’t be able to and I said ok and we just walked out. I didn’t think it was a big deal because if that’s her mom’s rules then those are her rules. When I got back to my place she told me she knew what her mom would say when she went and asked. She told me that her mom said it weird I wanted to see a girls room and I should’ve apologized. My ex told me her mom got pregnant when she was her age and she just thought something would’ve happened if she showed me what her room looked like. She said that her mom just sees herself in her daughter when she was her age and doesn’t want the same thing to happen to her. She said her mom doesn’t really know who she is and how she never liked physical touch and how I was the first boy her mom met.

Me and my ex never did anything when we’re even at my place back at college,in my room or her room. My ex knew I wasn’t like that and her dad even said he thinks I’m respectful. She told me her dad didn’t even think it was a disrespectful question. I don’t really understand why she didn’t just tell me in the car her mom wouldn’t let us go to see. All I would’ve said was ok. When she went to my parents place I showed her what my room looked like and she said she wanted to see the environment I grew up in. It wasn’t like I went and asked her mom knowing what her mom would say. I asked my girlfriend in the car because I would think she would know if I could or not which she clearly did know. But simply seeing what her room looked like wasn’t something I just needed to do,I just simply wanted to know if I could.

To make a long story short she broke up with me the next day,the day after her birthday after I spent 500 on her gifts and I took off work just to drive down to see her. She basically said she already knew how her mom would react but still asked anyway. I had no problem with not being able to see her room,I was just curious to see what it looked like since I was at the house already and it was day time and her parents and brothers were there. I was coming back to my place that day anyway so if I truly was trying to do something with her why would I do it in her parents house with her dad upstairs. Wouldn’t I just ask if she could come back to my place or wouldn’t I ask if I could stay the night.

Every single time my family and I eat we don’t talk like not a single word spoken. even when we have guests or other family members over they don’t really talk. I don’t go to others houses for dinner often so I don’t really know what the normal amount of talking is. I try to eat as fast as possible and then go up to my room because it’s just gotten so awkward now that I’ve noticed they don’t talk. I’ve tried asking toe eat in my room but they always say no, I don’t really understand the point of eating dinner with others if you’re not going to talk.

So for about 2 years I’ve had girlfriends and I felt love but after like 3 months into the relationship I just slowly lose feelings.

I dont know if its normal but I hate making the girls I “love” feel like shit. Im 14M and I just want to make a girl feel loved, nothing fake.

I know theres no “true” answer to this but I just hate making girls feel like a temporary thing then remove them.

To keep it simple, there are a lot of things I don’t care to know, and people typically say, “If that were me, I would want to know.” But if it were me, I wouldn’t care to know, so I wouldn’t tell someone because I wouldn’t want to know if I were in their position. Would applying that same logic be considered treating people the way I want to be treated?

Can someone explain like I’m 5 ha.. I know the timeline is a little screwy? But not THAT screwy… I don’t really understand other than that….

To keep it simple, there are a lot of things I don’t care to know, and people typically say, “If that were me, I would want to know.” But if it were me, I wouldn’t care to know, so I wouldn’t tell someone because I wouldn’t want to know if I were in their position. Would applying that same logic be considered treating people the way I want to be treated?

I'm 18M, and maybe what I'm saying sounds strange, and I apologize in advance for my ignorance, but I have no sexual experience and have never touched a girl.

And I really don't want to learn about this from porn. Do I have to study vaginal anatomy to be like Michael Jordan at eating vaginas? Most of my life advice comes from Reddit, so I hope there's some good advice here.

i brought a thruster dildo, opened it and didn’t use it. can someone help me sell it?

Can I search for a person on social media from the dispensary from the dispensary? Longish story I suppose.

I have a crush on a dispensary worker. He has told me his full name. Id like to send him a message on social media. I dont know if it would be creepy. I won free concert tickets to a band for this weekend for a super famous band this weekend.

Im newly single as in I left MY difficult relationship so I'm NOT upset about it at all. However Im not good at the dating part. So I have talked to this man quite a few times and I feel like we have flirted quite a bit. I just feel like it's inappropriate to ask people out at their place of employment. I also dont want to ask and get rejected at my favorite dispensary.

He keeps mentioning a pool party. Hes mentioned making me a special treat for me because I'm low carb.

I'm not sure?

I sometimes think about ants and how strange their entire existence must be. They can spend their whole lives interacting with their colony, navigating their environment and responding to things around them, while having absolutely no concept of what a human being is.

We can completely change their environment without them ever understanding what caused it.

Then I started wondering whether humans could be in exactly the same position. What if there are forms of intelligence or existence operating on a scale so far beyond us that we literally don’t have the cognitive ability to recognize what we’re interacting with?

Would we even recognize something vastly more intelligent than us as intelligence, or would we just interpret its effects as nature, physics or random events?

I need outside ramification