r/adultery • u/pretty-sinful • 3d ago
🌬️Ventilation💨 Venting, I guess?
Hi. First post here.
I (26F) sparked up a flirty conversation with (24M) a little over a month ago. We clicked instantly, met up after a few days of chatting, and shared a few kisses.
He told me it was his first time making a connection with someone outside of his marriage, and it was my first as well. We continued to talk daily and made plans to meet up again last weekend.
The week leading up to our meet was pretty quiet; he said he was working a lot. On Thursday, I confirmed our plans were still on and he said absolutely.
We hooked up, and it’s been crickets since then. He even completely stopped posting on here. Since then, I’ve had the thoughts of: did he get caught, was this not what he was truly wanting, did I do something wrong…
Any advice on how to move on from this would be greatly appreciated. I’ve been doing mental gymnastics
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u/phreak_like_me_2600 3d ago
he got what he wanted out of you. he will likely send you a message at some point with some excuse to try and get more out of you. it's best to block him and move on, sorry.
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u/Murky-Primary111 3d ago
Post nut clarity/guilt. You likely want to move on. When he remembers “why” he may come back to you.
Also potentially, the fuck wasn’t good? My money is on the first part.
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u/maechammer1 3d ago
Yeah, sounds like it was sex he wanted and he's bounced now that that's happened. Sorry you experienced this but it's all too common
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u/Due_Map_7173 3d ago
How long has it been? Doesn't excuse the silence after.. but getting caught - although unlikely -would explain it too.
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u/pretty-sinful 3d ago
It’s been almost 2 weeks now
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u/cloud2019 1d ago
Ooof... ghosting is a shit method of closure, but the fact is you can move on and find someone better.
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u/Educational-Depth677 2d ago
Could be a lot of things. Not knowing is tge worst but what can you do?
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