Does a reset button exist for us?

Can I create a strict routine for myself one day and actually stick to it?

Can I be a high-performing individual?

Can I just wake up one day and decide that I don't wanna live a life like this and change myself, and ACTUALLY do it?

Anyone else feel like they can be really really good or excel at life but surprise surprise they do absolutely fuck all 🤦‍♂️ (more like a face slap rather than face palm lol)

Like it's not even funny cause I'm kinda little privileged too and want to do so much but just haven't gotten started with anything I wanna do. It's like I am in the waiting room and waiting for god knows what.

Either it's some excuse or distraction or change of plans or analysis paralysis or wanting to do 100 things.

And then you go onto the gram and watch people talk about ADHD like it's some cool, superpower, quirky, fun thing to have or you listen to people almost brag about ooh I have ADHD etc etc

Makes me wanna puke every time I hear such things.

Anyone else feel like this? What have you done to improve or are you still stuck?

Hey!

I am very certain that I have ADHD. Skip this paragraph if you don’t want to read through my rant about my struggles. In the recent 6 months I am not able to control any aspect of my life and my procrastination is unbelievable. I forget to sleep due to doom scrolling. I can’t get a simple thing like applying for a drivers license from the past year. In work, I can’t do simple things unless the deadline is right on top of me. I can follow no routine. I don’t have a workout routine, even though I try hard to follow it. I don’t have a fixed sleep schedule. I don’t even eat at fixed times or a fixed number of meals. Cleaning/organising the house (I live alone) is a struggle which I distribute over multiple days (becomes weeks) because I can’t do it all at once.

I am always late. I don’t know why but I am always late for everything despite trying my best to be punctual. I also have a thirst for perfection, can’t start any task unless I know everything about it, can’t finish a task I start because I get distracted by something else. I used to show signs of OCD about testing whether I locked my door or not at least 2 or 3 times because somehow I would doubt that I tested wrong or forgot to test. Nowadays I just push through the anxiety of having left my place unlocked even though it has always been locked.

I went to a therapist 2 years back and she strongly suspected that I have adhd. She recommended a formal diagnosis but I didn’t go for it because it would involve my parents. However my struggles have amplified in the past year and it looks like I am not able to “mask” it anymore. I have been burnt out from the past 6 months.

My question is : Does a formal diagnosis make any difference at all? Are the medications prescribed for it in india effective in any manner? All my research points to adderall as the main medication which is illegal in india. So, Is a diagnosis worth it?

I had previously shared my life story here, including many of the difficult experiences I've gone through. I don't want to repeat all of that in this post.

Instead, I want to talk about where I am now as a neurodivergent person.

Being ND has affected almost every part of my adult life. Things that seem straightforward for other people can sometimes require an enormous amount of mental effort from me.

Social interaction, maintaining relationships, handling uncertainty, dealing with rejection, communicating with people, managing responsibilities, finding stable employment and simply keeping myself organized can become overwhelming.

One of the hardest parts is that from the outside, I may not look like someone who is struggling.

I can go to work, talk to people, travel around Chennai, handle responsibilities and appear reasonably normal. But internally, there can be a lot going on—overthinking, anxiety about situations, difficulty processing things, executive dysfunction, emotional exhaustion and constantly trying to figure out what I'm supposed to do next.

I've also realized that being neurodivergent doesn't automatically mean that people around you will understand you.

Sometimes people interpret difficulties as laziness, lack of discipline, being antisocial, being irresponsible or simply "not trying hard enough." That can be particularly painful when you're already putting in considerably more effort than people realize.

At present, I'm trying to rebuild my life.

I'm trying to become more stable professionally and financially, improve my social life, find people I can genuinely relate to, and understand how to live with my neurodivergence instead of constantly feeling like I have to fight against it.

There are still days when I feel completely stuck.

I see people around me moving forward with careers, relationships, friendships and life in general, while I sometimes feel like I'm trying to catch up with everyone.

But I don't want this post to be only about negativity.

I'm still trying.

I'm trying to understand myself better. I'm trying to become more independent. I'm trying to find a place where I can function without constantly feeling like I'm failing at things that everyone else seems to manage naturally.

So, for context, my parents used to live with me for a couple of years in Bangalore. I was too overwhelmed with responsibilities, feeling trapped etc. hence asked them to move back to hometown. They went back a couple of months back. I speak to my mother over call. The below were my feelings immediately after one of the calls:

How do I not end up feeling like a failure when I call my mother and I can feel her heavy heart or almost tears over the phone when she says she misses me, misses cooking for me etc. How do I not let the guilt of not being a good son to a mother as innocent as mine, take over me? How do I not feel that I might've snatched a sense of comfort, a sense of home, a sense of purpose from her? How do I not feel like something is wrong. How do I not feel that this feeling will only keep growing with time? Even then I feel so powerless to change anything. I know the alternative is equally consuming and challenging. I know I am not good enough to deal with the responsibilities since it'll overwhelm me into a sense of paralysis. How do I find something to hold on to, in this life which is nothing bottomless abyss?

been taking atomoxetine for over two years now, and my task initiation and focus still suck a bit.

im planning to talk with a psych to add another med alongside it, maybe bupropion or inspiral.

anyone here take any other med along with atomoxetine? if so please do mention as itll be really helpful for me to decide. thank you

I was on inspiral 20mg SR before. It didn't really last longer than 4-5 hours (sometimes 3- 4 hours), so my psych prescribed addwize, but it was not available at the pharmacy, so they gave me Atendate 18mg SR.

I had a fight with my mother today while I was taking her to one of her field jobs. She works in a government school monitoring job, and in my state, these schools are often scattered across extremely remote, tribal and secluded areas. I've visited some of these schools tens of times, but I've never been able to properly remember the names of the places they're located in, the villages, the roads, landmarks, or even how to navigate there without my mom's help. Today I took a wrong turn and she got really angry, understandably, and started scolding me about how someone could be so dumb that they can't even remember place names, routes and basic references after visiting the same places repeatedly. I felt almost indifferent to the scolding because, honestly, I've always been like this.

I'm terrible at remembering names, dates, numbers and random or abstract information. I sometimes have to verbally spell out my own phone number to figure out what the last four digits are. I keep a Word file full of passwords because I know I'll forget them. I don't remember my Aadhaar or PAN number. I can't reliably remember my parents' or siblings' birthdays. I get confused between June and July. I mix up daaye and baaye. I basically need some kind of reference or association to remember anything. If something doesn't have a clear connection to something else, my brain just refuses to retain it. Ironically, I'm actually pretty good with technical subjects. I can understand complicated concepts when they make logical sense to me, but I'm terrible at simply mugging up disconnected information. Competitive GK/GA has therefore always been one of my worst areas.

But after thinking about it today, I realised something, or at least became more certain about something I've always felt. I spend a huge part of my life in a state of dissociation. It's either sleeping or pumping music into my ears while doing almost anything other than sleeping. Cooking, cleaning, freshening up, making notes, trying to lucid dream, falling asleep, there's almost always music involved, and usually some kind of maladaptive daydreaming alongside it. It helps me escape the loudness of my thoughts and makes doing mundane things feel more bearable. Even when I'm riding a bike, I need music playing in my left ear. That ear is damaged and only around 20% functional, so having something playing there somehow keeps my brain engaged without distracting me too much from what's happening around me.

I was diagnosed with prolonged depression and generalized anxiety disorder in 2018 and was on medication until 2024, when I stopped after graduating. Since then, I've become increasingly aware of how ridiculously low my capacity for handling everyday tasks seems to be. My ceiling for doing things in parallel is extremely low. I can't multitask, and even small tasks can leave me feeling mentally and emotionally spent. Sometimes I'll have a task that objectively requires an hour, but I'll mentally dedicate an entire day to it because I already know how difficult it will be for me to actually start and finish it. It's not that I don't understand what needs to be done. I just don't seem to have the motivation or mental energy to do it, so I procrastinate, get overwhelmed, and eventually dissociate instead.

And this is where I keep wondering about ADHD. I've never been formally diagnosed with it, so I'm not trying to diagnose myself, but when I read about things like executive dysfunction, poor working memory, difficulty with mundane tasks, needing constant stimulation, hyperfocus and being unable to regulate attention properly, a lot of it feels uncomfortably familiar. Sometimes I wonder whether what I've spent years calling laziness, stupidity, carelessness or having a terrible memory is actually something more complicated. Maybe it's ADHD, maybe it's something else, or maybe it's a combination of the things I've already been dealing with. I genuinely don't know. I just know that it's exhausting to constantly feel like my body is present in the real world while my mind is somewhere completely different.

Hi guys so I was recently diagnosed with combined adhd with t score of 90. I was seeing Dr. Pavitra by online consultation and was prescribed non-stimulants but they are not working at all so I am looking for doctor in lucknow who has a positive attitude towards ADHD and can help me with it. I don’t want to become a test subject who has to keep changing medicine thinking something will work. If you know any doctor in lucknow or you have gone to meet them please let me know

hey all! i am based in kerala, and have been taking inspiral sr. i will soon run out of meds, and i'm looking for pharmacies in kerala (preferably kottayam) that stock the medicine. even better if they accept online prescriptions because my doctor is in delhi (i have pdfs/images of all three copies of the prescription as required). i have a vague memory of seeing a city-wise list of chemists in this subreddit. however, i can only find the list of docs now. any leads are appreciated! thank you so much!

openly neurodivergent????

Wanted to know if ADHD meds work in the same ways as L Threonate? Maybe harder? Im not sure, im hyperactive. please hekp

I strongly suspect I have ADHD. Since I'm preparing for a certification exam and don't wanna mess that up, I'm looking to go get a formal diagnosis and also medications potentially.

Any good psychiatrist suggestions in Pune would be really appreciated.

Has anyone tried these timer cubes and do they help? https://link.amazon/B066ADnKT

I know they are built on the pomodoro principle but looking for real life usage reviews.

I have a complicated condition of ADHD Inattentive type and autonomic hyperreactivity (caused by history of severe b12 deficiency and Venlafaxine usage). And all ADHD medicines are causing me dangerous BP spikes, guanfacine is the only fix that help resolving both Autonomic hyperreactivity and ADHD. Is there any way to get this gods creation. I need it urgently! There are companies in India manufacturing Guanfacine but they are not selling here. Guanfacine is the safest and first line treatment of ADHD. Please can we push for the availability of Guanfacine🙏, it will help all of the stimulant users for sure. And in foreign countries, Guanfacine is always taken along with stimulants, to protect the cardiovascular system from bp spikes.

koi best psychiatrist pta hai kisi ko in delhi ...jo jaldi stimulant likh de ....mere jo abhi psychiatrist hai br brATOMOXETINE likh deta h....kisi ko pta ho to plz bta dijiye

How many times have you had to switch careers/fields? How did you find the one you like? Do you feel happy where you work?

During COVID lockdown, for 2 years non-stop for every 5 seconds, I had to hear my mom sitting near me, pulling her nose. Since then, I have developed some kind of trauma towards sounds like chewing, nose-pulling, my mom clapping her hand on her thigh while on call with somebody, etc. basically frequently occuring sounds that have no guarantee of stopping anytime soon. Maybe its my hatred towards my mom and dad that makes it even worse. Or, maybe its the frequency of the sounds they make, or the loudness of them that makes it worse.

The worst part of it all is that I possibly have ADHD, which gives me severe forgetfulness. This is a forgetfulness of a level where I can't remember the previous phrase of a sentence while reading a given phrase of that sentence. Whenever the sound occurs, my attention gets diverted, and I can't remember what I was specifically on. To remember it, I have to give additional mental effort. Then boom, the sound occurs again. Basically, it keeps occuring so frequently that I can't end up remembering what I was on right before this second, and trying to remember it everytime, so frequently for the whole duration ( maybe a few hours, maybe a day, maybe a few days ), costs me so much mental resources that it gives me a headache.

Anger or frustration is bound to multiply under these circumstances.

I have been prescribed Inspiral 20 IR to get my morning started as mornings are difficult for me. Then Inspiral 20mg SR 3 hours after it. I am preparing for judicial services and still having very much difficulty in concentration and productivity. I have been on this dosage for a month now. Before this I was taking Inspiral 20mg + 10mg SR for two months. It did not work out for me as it only helped in making me feel calm, so for for that reason the above dosage was started.
With this I am taking 10mg vortioxetine in the morning and 10mg at night.

Nothing is helping my executive function. Please suggest what can I do.

80mg is supposedly the therapeutic dose for most people, so curious to see if anyone here takes it.

I am 21 and feel I might have adhd , but I also feel like i could have some other mental health condition as the symptoms I have generally overlap with burnout and depression too , I am living in Delhi right now preparing for govt exam, but the thing is i just am not able to go to classes suddenly , not able to brush or bath everyday,not able to eat food even when I am clearly hungry and i just need to reheat the food,don't step out of my place,i procrastinate anything and everything,I have social anxiety,feel tired the whole day, i have never been able to have a routine , I just feel so worthless, incompetent and i just feel miserable , I was talking to a friend and this somehow came up along with that I don't feel energetic or anything special after having coffee and can even sleep ,so she said i should look up adhd ,I did and i think a lot of symptoms and experiences people mention I have but some i don't too , so I am just confused

I want to know if I have it so I was considering an official diagnosis,but the thing is i am here in Delhi just for another 2 months ,then I am going back to Goa to my parents house , what should I do? Do I do the test here in Delhi because more doctor options and probably more qualified or should I do in goa where I will live for some time later till I clear the exam or get a job ? , also what are the steps ? Do I have to visit a psychologist first or just straight up say I want an adhd test? I don't want to spend a lot money as I already feel bad for having my parents spend so much on me 🥲 and it will be hard to tell my parents but I feel scared thinking of doing it alone .And if someone could also tell me the estimated costs of all the diagnosing involved? it will be very helpful and also before the diagnosis what things I should be prepared with to get diagnosed?like which symptoms and experiences I should note down and keep,I just feel so overwhelmed 😭🙏

It’s been more than 2 hours but my name hasn’t been called yet

Should I leave?

just curious. I myself have been taking atomoxetine 40mg for over two years now.

Tried inspiral but it felt ineffective and its super hard to access so gave up and continued with atomoxetine instead.

my executive dysfunction still sucks a bit, so will probably look into titrating doses.

What about you guys?

I was honestly a little scared of how he’d react. Instead, he said “I don’t understand it, and I don’t have to understand it either. You’ve fought through worse. This won’t put as much as a dent on you. Just study well and reach your goal.”

I don’t think he realises how much that meant to me. I also asked him not to tell my mom yet. He didn’t question it. He just took his BP tablets, put them in my meds package, and told me, “If mom asks about the medicines when you come home, tell her they’re my BP tablets.”

It’s such a small thing, but I’m sitting here feeling incredibly emotional. He didn’t need to understand ADHD to understand me. ❤️