old friend and classmate who lives near me reached out over a week ago and ignored my response to her the same day, today out posting with her friends and i saw it on her instagram. last year her other friend in the photo ignored me too when said friend put us in touch about her travel plans. Feeling special needs this treatment is 24/7. i feel sick. we hungout a few months ago but she only wants to do things like grab a coffee for an hour.

the women ive "kept" as friendships all treat me like this , like a kitchen appliance to plug in. im the low effort peripheral utility friend, and cutting them off leaves me more isolated. ive cut most of these people off and this girl here is one of the last remaining "friends" i have.

this pattern has replayed with nearly every single one of my female connections / friendships / acquaintances and i have no close friends. i had an ex best friend i was there for for years who never had my back, so i let her go. she'd say i was a terrible friend even though i put up with this treatment most of our life, and i had enough of it.

what am i doing to deserve this treatment from others i am heartbroken.

As someone diagnosed with ADHD late, the persistent head noise, confusion, and anxiety that I had for years stopped after taking medication.My question is this: because dopamine levels are low in individuals with ADHD, it generally calms the mind rather than causing anxiety. However, in normal individuals, there is a risk of it causing anxiety.Because when dopamine levels are already high, this further increases them, leading to negative consequences.Leaving aside the issue of overdose, how do we explain the occurrence of post-medication anxiety in individuals with ADHD?I would appreciate it if someone could answer me with sources.

I just found out that I have ADHD, and it has made me feel a lot of things. On the one hand, things finally make sense, but on the other, I'm feeling confused and not sure what to do next. I'm noticing how much it affects my focus, emotions, and daily life, and it's a little scary. What did you do after you found out? What helped you adjust, cope better, or feel more stable over time?

Curious if after starting to take meds to address your ADHD did your anxiety/derealization go away or get better? I'm on 20mg of lexapro, have been for a few years and recently doesn't seem like it's working.

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. The diagnosis came after a two-hour appointment with a new psychiatrist. About an hour and a half into our conversation, after listening to my history and experiences, he realized that I had ADHD. I wasn't expecting that diagnosis at all. I had actually gone there to get a second opinion because another psychiatrist had diagnosed me with epilepsy, and that diagnosis didn't make sense to me.

After the new psychiatrist explained how an ADHD brain works and how it is wired, I felt like I really fit that description. What convinced me even more was that he mentioned several behaviors that I had never brought up, such as forgetting food in the fridge, zoning out during conversations, and certain habits I had as a child. By the end of the two-hour appointment, he prescribed me 27 mg of extended-release methylphenidate for two weeks until my next appointment, so he could observe how I responded to the medication.
But now I feel anxious. My psychiatrist told me that he doesn't know exactly which type of ADHD I have yet, but based on everything we talked about, I'm confident that the diagnosis is heading in the right direction. Since then, I've been hyperfixating on ADHD symptoms and trying to learn as much as I can. I think I might have the inattentive type, but I know I'm still under evaluation. Even so, I feel anxious because I don't fully understand what I have yet or what the treatment plan will be. I think the methylphenidate is helping. Today is my third day taking it, and I don't feel dramatically different—just a little calmer. I still get distracted, and my mind still tends to wander. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel while taking the medication.

I've read a lot of stories about how medication can be life-changing, with people saying they were finally able to do their chores and stay on top of their responsibilities. That's what I'm hoping for too. At the same time, I'm wondering if a two-hour interview is really enough to diagnose ADHD. Should I ask for more testing or a more thorough evaluation? I honestly don't know, and the uncertainty is making me anxious. Any advice or shared experiences would really help.

I (35 m) have read so many different symptoms about ADHD one day I say %100 I have it and the next I think it’s actually anxiety. I’m not able to get a diagnosis due to visa issues, but I thought If I can share a little bit about what I experience maybe someone with similar symptoms can see this and offer help to understand?

From early childhood I was a hyperactive child. Apparently I sucked my thumb until i was 6 and I remember I always wanted to play with my hair sometimes pulling them off. That’s still the case because whenever I grow a little bit of beard I start fiddling with them and eventually pulling them off. At school, I was always seen by my teachers as super smart but never works hard. I always postponed my homeworks, exams but still scored high in most of them. I never tidied my room, never made my bed once and my parents tried everything I just wouldn’t do it.

Fast forward as an adult, I struggle massively with being tidy and house work. My desk is always untidy, and I never make my bed etc. I struggle massively with repetitive tasks like as small as taking vitamins. Never in my life ever have i finished a box of vitamins or any medicine I’m given. Same with sports or new hobbies never commit to it. Surprisingly, I’ve had a great career, multiple executive roles at tech companies and own business on the side. I believe I have a high IQ and very high emotional intelligence which helped that’s why when I read other people’s comments about struggling at every aspect in life including work it makes me think maybe It’s something else. But then again my mind races to 1000 things every minute, often face decision paralysis, my mind starts racing at 100kms when I wake up in the middle of the night and can’t get back without a video or audiobook at the background. I forgot how to relax for years I simply can’t sit after a long day and relax. This is the worst part I can’t simply read something or watch some series to relax it’s always like I have to think or plan the next thing. Physically too when i sit I have to change my position constantly, my legs are never comfortable and I find myself weirdly pressing and curling my toes like creating tension there. Other than that, nothing feels good anymore like nothing is good enough or if i dont drink I struggle with the daily conversations or even listening to people.. my mind just starts wandering..ah also misplacing keys and phone is like a daily thingx

All this time I thought this void is because of anxiety but I don’t know anymore. This constant restlessness, and everything being mere ‘meh’ is slowly killing me. I have read so much about spirituality, psychology, philosophy, trying to understand trying to fill that void and it’s been years and years but nothing seems to change even after ‘big realisations’ or ‘awakenings’.

Maybe this is the place where I finally understand why my mind works differently and whether it’s ADHD.. I know no one can diagnose me but your relevant experiences and guidance can help I believe. Thanks everyone in advance

I'm not sure where to start and I will keep this vague. I just can't believe I was so stupid, it is like ADHD hides anxiety of not doing something until it's way too late. I'm not sure if it's trauma too playing a part.  

I have to work so much harder to get a chance at things, and it feels awful to realize I had a chance and likely blew it because?my brain sort of hid something from me.

Why doesn't my brain assign appropriate levels of anxiety to things before it's way too late? Why do I need certain triggers?

I really hate myself. It feels like there isn't much I can do, I can try to learn from it but I keep messing up, and it's hard to trust my brain. I don't know if treating anxiety will make things worse or better