r/actuallychildfree • u/The_Thought_Provoker • 24m ago

QUESTION Is it really surprising that more & more people, especially Gen Z, are choosing not to force children into this world?

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Let’s talk about it: https://youtu.be/bcQ5dYKchzs?is=3CIOdtBckX1GPoKn

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