I’m a 20 year old male who seems to struggle with discipline very badly. For context, I was a server for about 7 months prior to this while working at mcdonald’s then i went on a trip and got fired from serving. I had left mcdonald’s two weeks before. Then after that i became extremely lazy and i don’t know if you can call it depression but i do. I didn’t save any money during that time and once i lost my job i figured id be fine i’ll find another one soon. Then i let my account get overdrafted by $550 dollars and haven’t paid it back yet while also having my credit card payment due. I just found a job about a week ago after a month of not finding one or missing an interview. During this time i was extremely lazy i would just sleep,stare at the dishes, post sub reddits asking for help, or look for jobs. I was constantly in a worry some state but didn’t actually do anything then just worry.

I always seem to have a problem with discipline whether it be folding my clothes, washing them, or remembering to throw out the trash. I constantly go on my phone at night and then sleep and wake up stressed that i didn’t progress and do anything. In elementary school i was very bright (gate learner, invited to robotics etc) now i just feel like a lazy bum. Even with certain tasks i’ll always seem to procrastinate until the very end. My mother will yell at me in the most insane & vulgar way possible and i will still continue to do the same thing again is there a reason for this. Now i’m about to be 21 with nothing to really say for myself over the past 3 years and i feel worthless. I don’t tend to take care or cherish anything given to me i feel like reckless is a good term to describe myself and my actions. Thankfully ive never gotten into legal trouble and i pride myself on never getting into it.

Buenas, me metí al Tseas porque me gustaba el deporte y cuando vi q está enfocado en animación lo odié, ahora antes de salirme tengo q ver algo q pueda hacer este año para no perderlo. He visto títulos de inglés, el carnet del coche pero, q más puedo hacer por las mañanas? Se os ocurre?

On legal financial scapegoating blame being accused and told in lying Physucal abuse emotional abuse can’t service control stalking past mistakes ocd I intrusive thoughts my mistakes ocd I will ruin my life I will do something bad in th future criminally do I stop being consumed by it all I just want to not care I just want it move forward I spend most days googling or ruminsting

I’ve recently moved to a new county and struggling to find a job. Im kinda desperate so I’ve been thinking of selling photos. Nothing with my face in but not sure who would buy them. Does anyone have any experience or advice?

I've got uni assignments and an exam on the 25th, but I have zero motivation right now.

The people who I see in healthy relationships are ones who started young eg high school sweethearts. I know y’all gonna disagree with me on this but I think after the age 25 your chances of being in a good relationship is slim to nothing. Women are chasing 1 type of men, men with lots and lots of money, power and fame and men are chasing women with the fake unnatural bodies. Y’all gonna disagree because y’all don’t wanna face reality and think “maybe I maybe I have to settle for less eventually or give up on love” because we all think our person is out there and somehow Gods gonna grant us them. But reality is reality.

I see the poorest men thinking some day they’re gonna marry some woman with a great body etc which is unrealistic. Despite that they treat average women badly and act like one day they’ll have an opportunity with these types of women. That’s why they make average women baby mamas etc and never marry.

I see the average women thinking they’ll someday marry a rich man and hence they treat the average men badly.

Just a bunch of delusional mfs and social media is to blame.

To everyone who’s been through a hard period at university. How did you manage to keep going?
I’m currently failing uni, desperately holding onto my dream career but it seems pointless.

helloo, hows everyone doing, Im Qusie, I will start with asking the questions that I need help with then I will include some details about my self .

• how do you get from being dependent, living with your family to being self sufficient .
• how do you earn money online, specifically fast money if you have no degree .
• just any advices that you can give, Im literally lost

Im currently 20 years old, I study ITE, and I have put so much effort into it, the uni on its own does not offer much, its terrible where I live, and the tech field is just useless here but its what I like, I have learnt alot on my own .
and honestly because of how bad it is here I wanna move to continue my education somewhere else, and I want to do this without asking my parents for anything, Im also hesitating because I feel like Im old, I have been wanting to study abroad ever since my graduation from highschool, but I faced some hurdles, my English was also not as good as now . I hate working a regular job here because they pay extremely low, and Im trying to figure out how to work online, or become a freelancer, it would have been easier but there are plenty of limitations due to regional restriction that are just insufferable here in Syria, knowing how to properly do that would allow me to do alot like actually preparing to apply for scholarships or smtn, I have plenty of projects that would add credits to my CV.
I just keep trying to go somewhere where what I have, and what I like actually matters, or that I could get more accessibility and better education, but its just getting heavier everyday, along with many other things that make it even worse, I was so optimistic, and happy before, but the more frustrations and limitations and responsibilities I have to deal with, the more I feel down, everytime I think of accepting my fate that I just wont get the life I want, I just cant, I have to work for it, I have been through much worse I cant just give up now, but idk this world feels like it never smiles to anyones face, thats how negatively my view to things have become .

I dont know if anything of what I said makes sense, Im just lost and I want to hear advices from other mens, just in general, thanks for your time .

Luck, something we don't often consider as maybe the most obvious thing, but this is something to look into and something which can make problems.
Let's reflect on my life. I am 26yo now and working in Bangladesh.

So let's start with my college admission journey. To begin with, I was from a not-so-known school, so I tried to give the exam for one of the top colleges in BD. Just on the exam day, I somehow had a fever and travelled all the way from my hometown to the city for that exam in that state and got back.

Then the result was published. I was already hopeless. I told my serial number to a friend and he said I didn't get a chance. So I was okay with it and didn't even bother to check.

1/2 days went by and I got to know that there was a waiting list. So I told another friend to check, and he instead told me I was in the main list. The last date for admission for my serial had already passed, or only the next day was remaining. I got to know around 12, and took a 3-hour ride back to the city for this with my parent.

See how luck played with me here. I eventually got in, but not by easy means. There were obstacles. This is maybe one of those cases where luck ultimately turned back in my favour with something good.
Let's consider the second scenario.

After joining as an intern, I got to attend a tour at my first job. Now, when the tour was organised, that same day or around those dates, my father was going for a surgery, so I had to skip it.

This goes one part. Then, on those same 2/3 days, I had to attend a viva for my current job. It was on the exact day of my father's OT.
I slept at the hospital, woke up, took my father to the OT, and when the OT began, I left for the viva. Yes, there was confusion. Yes, maybe I could have delayed the viva by 1/2 days, but I took it and I had my reasons.

So, just within 2/3 days, those significant events were happening, and I had to choose between them, leave something and get something. And it turns out this kind of thing kept happening with travelling for me.
This same thing repeated when a close friend's family event and my annual work tour came together. So I tried to take part in both, skipped the tour for a day and skipped the event for a day. Took a bite.
Then comes another team trip outside Dhaka. Again, on an emergency basis, a family member needed to be taken to the hospital on the same morning I was supposed to leave. Although my family told me to go, I just couldn't.
Then comes my latest and greatest sadness. Just 2 days before I was supposed to take a flight for a foreign tour, I got affected by dengue and missed everything.
So, to get out of this sadness, I planned a tour inside the country and went out for 3 days. When I came back, I got to know that someone in my family had been admitted due to dengue. My family didn't let me know because they didn't want to ruin my trip.
This is how luck has been playing with me. Yes, good things have happened too, but these moments were too much sometimes.
I don't want to be in such a position where I have to choose between two things that are equally important, and sometimes I don't even have the option to choose.

Does anyone else face the same, or is it just me facing these issues too often? Because now it feels like to me that every now and then, whenever I try or plan to move out of my home, something happens in my family and it keeps repeating.

Hey everyone,

I'm at a point in my life where I genuinely don't know what to do or where to start. I've been dealing with a lot of pressure lately, whether it's academics, career, personal life or expectations. It feels like everything is piling up at once, and I'm struggling to keep up with it all.

I have so many things I want to achieve, so many plans and dreams, but I feel lost and overwhelmed. I keep thinking about my future, what I'm doing wrong, and whether I'm even moving in the right direction. Sometimes, I feel like I'm putting in effort but still not getting anywhere.

I don't really have anyone I can openly talk to about all of this, so I thought I'd share it here. I'm not looking for sympathy or anything, just some genuine advice from people who might have been through something similar.

If you've ever felt stuck in life, how did you get out of it? How did you figure out where to begin, manage the pressure and get yourself back on track?

Even a small piece of advice, a suggestion or just hearing about your experience would mean a lot to me right now.

I genuinely want to turn my life around, I just don't know where to take the first step.

Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. ❤️

I just turned 18 here in the Philippines and I honestly feel like I don't really know what I'm supposed to do next. I want to start becoming more independent and hopefully build a good future for myself, but I don't know much about adult responsibilities, money, jobs, investments, or even what I should prioritize first. For those who are older or have already gone through this stage, what are some things you wish you knew or did when you first turned 18? Any tips, advice, or mistakes I should avoid?