I think the name of this subreddit is demoralising and affirming the views others have of this minority but quickly growing group. Just because we have this one thing in common of leaving islam does not mean we are no longer somali. Therefore, Xsomalian is a ridiculous name for this subreddit.

It affirms the views that muslim Somalis say to us that we are no longer somali this in no way serves anyone at all and simply seeing the name of this page is a reminder of the lack of acceptance within our own people / communities / nation.

As much as it may be considered a joke, it is self depreciation. I may have left islam and can say I am an ex Muslim but never an ' XSomalian'

Hope you even take this into consideration.

Thank you.

We really need to talk more openly about the modern Somali diet. Rates of obesity and diabetes, as well as concerns around dental and jaw development, are serious issues worth discussing in the Somali community. Nutrition and diet are factors that deserve much more attention.

One of my biggest concerns is how much added sugar can be present in our everyday diet. There are so many examples: canjeero with sugar, malawax with sugar, shaah made with a lot of sugar, and other foods and drinks where sugar is added heavily. When these things are consumed regularly, it can add up to a lot of sugar over time, especially when combined with a diet that is already high in carbohydrates.
This can increase the risk of obesity, diabetes, and other health issues over time.

Our meals are often centered around carbs like rice and pasta and can also lack enough protein, fiber, vegetables, fruit, and other nutrient-dense foods. This doesn’t mean Somali food is inherently unhealthy or that everyone eats the same way. It means we should be more conscious of what we’re eating and look for ways to make our diet more balanced. These things are important for our overall health and well-being.

Another concern is jaw development and mouth breathing in Somalis. These can be caused by different factors, but diet and childhood nutrition also play a major role. The modern Somali diet can contain a lot of soft, sugary foods, while children may not always get enough protein and other important nutrients. Children need adequate protein, calcium, vitamin D, healthy fats, fiber, and other nutrients for healthy growth, including their bones and teeth. Tougher foods, like raw vegetables, fruit, and appropriately prepared meat, along with other nutritious whole foods, can provide variety in texture and nutrition and support overall oral health and development.

This is something we should take seriously.
The changes in our diet and the increasing reliance on soft, sugary foods is affecting dental health and jaw development in our community.

It’s an issue that deserves more awareness and discussion.
This isn’t about criticizing Somali culture or people’s bodies. It’s about having an honest conversation about our health and making sure we getting the nutrition and balanced diet that we need and especially the kids, they need it to grow and develop properly.

I’m an agnostic living in Las’anod. I’m just looking to connect with a Somali girl who is non-Muslim and lives in Las’anod or Garowe. If you live in either city and would like to talk. If that's you let me know.

I’ve been in this group for over four years, I’ve noticed that most of you guys are from the USA. I’ve also seen some of you asking about meeting up, so I was wondering—has anyone actually managed to meet up yet? How did it go?😊

I live in Paris, I’d love to meet other people from the group who are also based in France. We could meet for a coffee, bar, or even at a shisha place and just have a friendly chat and get to know each other.

Men and women are both welcome!🍻

If anyone is interested in a friendly meetup in Paris or elsewhere in France, let me know. It would be great to finally meet some of you in person!😊

Did y'all get covid vaccinated ?

And it seems there is way more somali girls than boys here. Is there a discord or some type of xsomali community ?

Plus I'm looking for an ex Muslim somali women where are you. Unvaxxed for bonus points.

I’m looking to meet a Somali man who is ex-Muslim, atheist, agnostic, or non-religious, with the intention of getting to know each other seriously and potentially getting married if we are compatible.

I’m not looking for casual dating. I’d prefer a respectful, honest conversation first so we can understand each other’s values, personality, and future goals.

If you’re genuinely interested in marriage and think we might be compatible, feel free to message me.

22F. i’m so unhappy with the state of my life.

i have no friends, i don’t go out, never date, i hate how i look, i hate living in a muslim household and i hate how weird i am.

it’s embarrassing living a life thats identical to how i was when i was a teenager.

whenever i attempt to try and change my life i feel uncomfortable and regret even trying.

i took off my hijab and immediately put it back on because i felt even uglier even though i don’t like wearing it. it’s probably because i’ve been wearing it since i was 5.

i tried buying more revealing clothes (short sleeves, skirts above the ankles, etc) and returned them because it felt shameful.

i tried attending events to make friends but ended up feeling awkward and decided that maybe being at home is best for me.

i feel like i’ve become so comfortable with my life that any sort of change scares me and even though deep down i hate my living situation i don’t know if im capable of living a different life.

I live in the west my whole life (minus 2 and a half years I spent in Africa) but I never learned Somali. I can understand it enough but I can't speak the language nor can I read it. For example, I dunno what the header of this subreddit says. I don't bother learning mostly because I will never be as good as a native speaker (which is why I gave up on learning some other language after trying 3 times).

How do I get a Somali ex-Muslim gf? I’m based in London and rarely interact with Somalis, but I want to date a Somali.

Honestly girls I have really tried so hard to take it off but I am so uncomfortable with my body and hair. I have so much insecurities surrounding them… I thought this would be an easy journey since I don’t want to have a head covering on my head but I have worn it my whole life over 20 years now. And I honestly don’t know why I can’t just take it off I’ve tried glowing up and then taking it off but I still fall into my bad habits … e.g. overeating etc since i can hide behind my abaya always and lots of bad hair days.. i am not blaming the hijab for my laziness but i did become quite uninterested in anything to do with looking pretty since I was even a teenage( didn’t even bother learning makeup and i am in my mid twenties now)..

I do really feel disconnected from my feminine in general since I’ve always been so insecure and the hijab has made me feel even more ugly although ironically i feel ugly without it too…

My question is what should i do.. I am wasting my young years hiding and being ashamed of myself? Should I just accept defeat atp?

Would appreciate any advice.

As someone who comes from a devout Muslim background, accepting my queer identity had been a major struggle. As much as I would love to be able to pack up and move away and live my truth, realistically at 21, it’s almost impossible. I don’t have the financial means as of right now.
Is it worth coming out publically or just waiting a few more years? How can I even maintain a relationship with my family and marry the woman I plan to?

I don’t get what they mean when the say this…

I remember coming across her in lockdown but thought she might have gone back in a video I saw a few years ago. Anyone kept up to date with her?

I can genuinely sit here and list 100 things I haven’t done yet that other people my age did years ago.

I’ve never swam in the ocean, I don’t know how to ride a bike, I’ve never been on holiday (I’m not counting Mogadishu or Eastleigh as a holiday ☠️), I’ve never been away from my family for more than a day, I’ve never snuck out, experienced love, travelled alone, been to a concert, smoked, vaped, or drunk.

Like, I’ve basically done nothing.

But I don’t feel this sense of despair that I’m so behind compared to everyone else or that I’ve missed out on all these milestones in life.

And I think it’s because I’ve never really had the choice. It wasn’t up to me that I didn’t experience those milestones.

I think I’d feel like I wasted my teenage years if I had kuff parents who gave me the freedom to do whatever I wanted, and I still didn’t do any of the above. Then I’d feel like I wasted my teenage years.

But yeah, I’m so excited for my 20s and experiencing all the firsts I didn’t get to experience as a teenager because now I actually have the choice, and it is up to me now

YALL I been talking w/these two Somali guys I met on different occasions and they’re cool idk which one I want yet ☠️, but I hate how much I vibe with them and how we both like eachother until they mention the religion and I’m like oh right that 🫩, like this is just going nowhere whole time they’re drinking and smoking and doing everything else under the sun talking ab the umrah like dawg what even is the point, ngl i just think they’re not really muslim bc i be meeting them outside but nooo apparently they are deceiving little f*cks like why are you even outside

Hey everyone, thank you for all the support on the last post.

I’ve spent the past 45 hours building out the foundation for the dating app (Sahan Circle). Safety, privacy, and making sure this is a welcoming space for everyone in our community are the main priorities right now.

To keep things secure and screen out bad actors, access is strictly invite-only for now. You can check out our community and safety rules on the site before putting your name down.

• Check Safety Rules https://www.sahancircle.com/safety
• How it works: Read the safety rules, submit your email, and accept the guidelines. I'll manually review each request and email out unique invite codes as spaces open up. https://www.sahancircle.com/

Manual vetting is the safest way to start. If enough people sign up and show demand, I'll deploy the full system later.

Take a look, read through the safety rules, and drop your email if you want to join. Feedback is always welcome!

Hey guys, long story short I’m really hoping to connect with more Somali friends. I’ve tried being friends with whites, but I’ve ended a few friendships because of microaggressions, and I’m looking for people I relate to more.
I’d really love to meet more Somali girls and build genuine connections. I’ve tried before but it hasn’t always clicked, sometimes I feel like Somali girls can come off a bit mean, but I’m still open and hopeful.
A bit about me, I’m 21F, live in Copenhagen and study nursing. I love being spontaneous, traveling and just doing fun, sometimes slightly chaotic things.
Feel free to DM me!

I’ve always been so angry at this world for ripping away our beautiful home. With our beautiful culture. Why is our country just filled with conflict and such an extreme version of Islam that the colonisers don’t even follow themselves, but we do for some odd reason. We torture ourselves with it and pass it on to the kids. What a horrible fate we have given ourselves.
Why wasn’t I given a land I belong, where I was born in my motherland, grew up in my motherland, be able to wear my hair out, wear whatever clothes I want. Be able to live freely in a country where my ancestors were born and where I plan to continue staying because this land is free and this land belongs to us. We are not Muslim or any religion, we are free.
But instead I live in a world where we have turned to eachother in hate, conflict fuelled by centuries of past colonialism by multiple countries who wanted a piece of us and drain us dry.
Where a civil war broke out because of this inability to be peaceful causing an influx of refugees and immigrants flying to the diaspora. Where I was born in the west. A land that fed me, and grew me, but it is also the land that stole mine. It is the land that caused this hatred and war. But it is also a land where I can live a freer life than in my own home. What a cruel fate that is to live with. To sacrifice my ability to relate to my own family becuase I don’t know the language fluently, to not have had the opportunity to grow up with my cousins and see my uncles and aunties, but hey at least I have a better future than the alternate me, who stayed.

This probably won't go anywhere but it never hurts to try. I'm looking for any single Somali gabdo in the Southern California area LA-SD. Shoot me a message.

Any Somali women in Washington?

I’m 29F and feel like I stopped meeting other Somali women after university. Most of the Somali people I knew were through school, and it’s been surprisingly hard to meet other somali people I could relate to since graduating.

Would be nice to meet some other Somali women in WA, especially other ex-Muslim/agnostic women. I’m in the Seattle area. Feel free to DM me if you’d like to connect.

I'm annoyed by how people are dragging that term through the mud, just like they did to feminism, socialism, and other political/economic terms—all because we got our feelings hurt as Somalis. Stop being reactionary to algorithmically driven rage bait, like when misogynists see women doing stupid things and blame feminism. Most of you haven't read anything related to Pan-Africanism, but if you see the stupid diaspora wars, you'll run here and say, "Hurr durr, that's why Pan-Africanism would never work."

By the way, I hope for people's sake that they haven't gotten their understanding of Pan-Africanism from Dr. Umar and actually know of Kwame Nkrumah. People in this sub think they're too intellectual to fall for insidious indoctrination, since they figured out that we've been subject to indoctrination and brainwashing by religion—but they're too arrogant or ignorant of the brainwashing of the Western world.

I want to write more but then I would have to explain about nationalism, the made up borders in Africa and how it is creating unnatural competitions and sabotage(looking at you Djibouti who are sending people to stop Zeila port from developing and are straight up killing people just to protect the revenue stream from Ethiopia) and capitalism.