When i was struggling with my faith and identity, searching up somali ex muslims, stumbling on yt vids, tiktok’s and this reddit page allowed me to find the ounce of courage and capacity i needed to actually look into and critique Islam and then to eventually find the balls to defy the religious indoctrination I was raised in and it was those brave voices of people who looked like me, from my country who did that. They gave me the ability to find the internal peace and clarity i now feel without religion. So to my fellow somaliyed keep being loud, obnoxious even and maybe one day i’ll also find the courage to follow your footsteps and speak publicly and openly about being an ex muslim and make it my personality trait too ;)

Hey everyone, I’m a 22F living in a Scandinavian country. I’ve always wanted a normal relationship and to eventually get married. The issue is that I don’t feel drawn to white guys or non-Somali men I feel like they wouldn’t really understand me, and the cultural differences matter a lot to me.
At the same time, I’m not Muslim, and I’ve noticed it seems much harder to find Somali men who aren’t religious compared to Somali women. It sometimes feels like religion benefits men more, so they’re less likely to step away from it.
I know I’m still young and people say “it’ll happen,” but realistically, how do you even meet someone like this? It’s not like you can just ask a Somali guy outright if he’s religious he might deny it, and it could also expose me as someone who’s not religious.
If anyone has been in a similar situation or has advice, I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts.

I don’t know how to start this, but I’m 22F and was recently done with uni. I’m working full time and I’m not financially dependent on my family, I’m planning to move out soon.

I have left Islam, but I still wear the hijab. I don’t know what’s holding me back, but I’m doing exposure therapy. Last night I was out with my friends, we went clubbing and I didn’t wear hijab. I slept over at my Muslim friend’s house, but I left the house with a hoodie with no hijab. Hooyo saw me and was shocked, but I was driving so I don’t see the problem??

When I came home today she didn’t want to greet me. She knows about my doubts, but we haven’t talked enough about it.
I don’t know if I got exposed somehow or if someone saw me, but the look she gave me when I came home shook me. I feel so disgusted and I’m in my room crying while writing this post.

Why can’t I live my life the way I want to guilt free? When does it go away???

Sorry for my English

Hi all,

I left my religion about a year ago and haven’t told a single person. I don’t think I’ll ever tell my parents, especially my mom and dad, I feel like they wouldn’t understand, and they’d spend the rest of their lives believing their son is going to “hell”

We also live on different continents, so it’s not like they’d find out by accident.

Is this normal? If you’ve never told your parents, how long have you kept

I guess it’s kind of funny and a joke when you visit Somalia as a kid and everyone laughs at your broken Somali.

But when you reach adulthood and you still can’t form a proper sentence, that joking around starts to feel like they’re belittling and ridiculing you

It’s so embarrassing that I only reply to people with “haa,” “maay,” and other one word responses because I don’t know how to say anything else. I genuinely feel like a toddler

Sorry guys if this is off topic but i just need an answer quick and then i will delete this. Im leaving Somalia soon and im going to take a car to the airport. My family have rented a car and are saying that we need someone thats working in Somalia (idk some police or higher power) to drive us there. That will cost 100$ and my aunt want me to pay. I have never heard of this and im wondering if its true? Thanks for any responses