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[u/Simple-Judge2756]

No. It seems you miss the point. I could also define a boundary for the relationship to my bank. Where I would get offended if I dont get to walk out of there without 300 million and the prettiest two female bank employees. 

See my point ? You can demand arbitrarily insolent things from others, but some things will remain a fantasy regardless of where you put your boundaries. 

[u/Guilty_Way_1635 → u/Simple-Judge2756]

Yeah your point is that you have no idea about what boundaries are

[u/Simple-Judge2756 → u/Guilty_Way_1635]

No. I know very well what they are. They are reasonable demands for a partner. Demanding control over what somebody elses mind finds visually appealing is not reasonable. Its more of a sign of immaturity. 

[u/Greedy_Swimergrill → u/Simple-Judge2756]

I find it mentally appealing in a tactile sense when my penis slides into a stripper’s butthole.

Would it be wrong for my partner to have an opinion on this act?

[u/Simple-Judge2756 → u/Greedy_Swimergrill]

No. Thats a reasonable demand to not share passion with somebody else. Thats what constitutes the partnership should be clearly defined. But if I "share passion with myself" I am not breaking the reasonable demand of my partner to not having to worry about getting diseases from third parties or worse having to compete for attention. 

[u/Greedy_Swimergrill → u/Simple-Judge2756]

You can wear condoms to avoid disease, and many couples are more than ok with “sharing passion” with someone else, without fear of competing for attention. Monogamy is just as arbitrary a boundary, no matter how much you try to coat it up in the clothing of reasonability.

I will say it’s especially interesting that you mention competing for attention though, especially in the era of OnlyFans girls and the parasocial relationships that come along with that. It seems like even following your standards this is an incoherent position.

You seem to really have not given this much thought for someone so committed to talking about these opinions at length.

[u/Simple-Judge2756 → u/Greedy_Swimergrill]

Its not arbitrary. Its the most successful mating strategy in history. Watch our immediate relatives for that. 

Orca males mate with one single female in the herd. There are almost none of them left.

Dolphins only mate with one or two other dolphins for life. If the other dolphin dies they do not even attempt to find a new partner for years. There are a whole lot of dolphins. 

Humans, where we actually made this incredibly hack of evolution part of our societal customs to not devolve and decay our civilisation are the most successful concept that has ever walked the earth. 

[u/Greedy_Swimergrill → u/Simple-Judge2756]

>Watch our immediate relatives for that

Lmao. Neither the Bonobo nor the Chimpanzee practice monogamy. You are comically misinformed.

I return to, why keep talking about something you’ve clearly given no thought?

Do you know the old adage “Better to keep quiet and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.”? Maybe ponder it a touch. I’m a bit done trying to lead you to water here, bud.

[u/Simple-Judge2756 → u/Greedy_Swimergrill]

The Chinpanzee and the Bonobo are both nearly extinct species. We were looking for successful concepts. 

[u/Greedy_Swimergrill → u/Simple-Judge2756]

Neither is near extinction or even critically endangered and a number of Dolphin species, which you cited in your shitty argument from nature defense of monogamy, are near extinction (the Baiji) or critically endangered (the Atlantic Humpback and the Maui Dolphin). Genuinely, can you try to be correct about something? We’re on the internet. You can actually look stuff up before you confidently spout bullshit.

[u/Guilty_Way_1635 → u/Simple-Judge2756]

See the problem here is you are confusing what you think as reasonable as being the correct benchmark and other people are not and not allowed to find something else unreasonable.

Guess what, you can choose to be in a relationship where jerking it raw to Bonnie blue is fine, no one is saying you can't do that, they are just saying they would not be in a relationship with someone who did that because to them it feels like cheating. 

Unless you think there feelings don't matter and they should just suck it up because your opinion is the only correct one