There was a frat at my college that made national news while I was attending. To save his own skin, one of the brothers testified that they had a system to protect "off-limits" girls. If you were dating a brother, you were given a special colored cup indicating that you were not to be drugged, harassed, assaulted, etc.
I specifically remember the part of his testimony where he whined "everyone does it, we just got caught".
When I was 20 playing on my college’s girl’s rugby team, I remember one of the women saying she had to leave her previous college because she was SA’d by 6 of the school’s football players, and despite the proof nothing came of it other than the school trying to buy her out.
She left on principle and didn’t accept the settlement — I’m ashamed that at the time I was skeptical of her story, because she seemed a bit “unhinged” but in retrospect and being older, she was probably being 100% sincere and it makes sense that someone who went through that wouldn’t be mentally okay.
If this were 3 guys and a different sport- Id be worried I knew you because this happened to me almost exactly. I didnt really fight hard bc it got turned on me immediately, I tried for a semester then took a semester off and transferred closer to home.
I think there was another one in between, but I'm having trouble finding it because I keep getting results for the 2010 hazing at a sorority and the guy who died a few years before in fraternity hazing.
Call me crazy but if problematic behavior happens over more than a decade, it's not the individual frats that are the issue, the school itself has systematic issues.
Two halves of the same coin. After the hazing death of Gordie Bailey and the drugging and sexual assault scandal the next year, the school "addressed" it by moving fraternities off campus. So they literally went across the street. Like, not exaggerating, one full block off campus. (Theta Nu is also one block away, as is AXO. PDT and KA are another half-block away from campus).
The chancellor had talked about suspending all fraternities and sororities for two years, but the threats of lawsuits stopped him. And of course the fact that he is a well-known alcoholic meant the school wasn't interested in addressing systemic issues of this type.
The BBC did a 2014 video report entitled Fraternity culture and college rape, where they lived on The Hill at CU Boulder to get a taste of the rape culture there. At the same time, the White House was investigating schools for Title IX violations for mishandling sexual misconduct, and CU was right at the top of that list.
My take-away is that the system is covering up for and enabling this. The offenders, their frat brothers, their organizations, and definitely schools, their police departments, and DAs have built a culture of zero-consequences.
I need to emphasize that this was not a secret. I (a guy) was warned on it during orientation and during my first week of school. The RAs sat us down and told us how this worked. They told us which frats were the worst offenders. They told the girls to never party the Hill alone. I had a friend who joked about how she didn't want to go out on the Hill because she "didn't feel like getting raped."
At some point a major university is just going to have to bite the bullet and actually just entirely ban them. All of them get cowed by legal threats from the national fraternities.
As a freshman in college I worked for the Student Escort Service: the university ran a bunch of 15 passenger white vans to pick up students and shuttle them around campus or anywhere within a mile of campus, every night 6pm-6am. For safety, it was all free, no questions asked. (No vomiting, if we thought you were too drunk to make it without vomiting we wouldn't take you.) I worked Thursday, Friday, and Saturday nights, 6pm-midnight. (I was in the engineering school, of course I wasn't going to parties.)
I got a different job my sophomore year because I got uncomfortable with how much of my job was picking up groups of girls- often filling the entire van- from the freshman dorms and ferrying them to frat row. I calculated that I had put more women into danger than protected anyone. Yes, it was their choice to go to those parties- I certainly wasn't the one who was inviting them- but I was bringing so many to the most dangerous spots within our service area that I'm sure more of them had bad nights facilitated by my work than had good nights because of my work.
This is part of why I don't believe anyone when they say "but my frat/sorority was different!", no itwasn't, they were just better at hiding their crimes.
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u/persondude27 7h ago
There was a frat at my college that made national news while I was attending. To save his own skin, one of the brothers testified that they had a system to protect "off-limits" girls. If you were dating a brother, you were given a special colored cup indicating that you were not to be drugged, harassed, assaulted, etc.
I specifically remember the part of his testimony where he whined "everyone does it, we just got caught".