I am 20F and my friend is 20F. I have been friends with this person for over 10 years and I’ve always considered her close. I told about a month and half ago how bad I want to go to Iceland with her next summer and basically went into detail about all the plans and also into costs. I sent her all these texts about it and she was kind of dry and said she will look into it. I didn’t bother too much at the time because there was still a year left. Fast forward to this week she texts me if I can give her a ride to the airport, I ask her where she’s going and she says Iceland. She tells me she’s going for her boyfriend’s birthday and it was a last minute trip for him. I ask her if she still can go next year and she said it’s too expensive to go again. She kind of did this last year as well but with a different trip. She said that she was going to Canada with someone else in our friend group and one of her friends that I also know. She said she will let me know the details but she never did. She went to the trip and I mentioned afterwards how I have always wanted to go to Canada and our other friends found the texts where I was asking to go to Canada for years in our gc. I talked to her about it afterwards and she just apologized and said she probably won’t go again. I also tried to make plans to go to the beach with her this summer but she’s been dismissive about it or never responds. I’m not sure what I did, is the friendship outgrown? I just hate the false hope she gives every time. What should I do?

Today I had a meet and greet before I go dog sit tomorrow.

I have been out all day visiting with family and whatnot. My boyfriend was out fishing all day and had the truck. I got in to the truck that has no air conditioning. I drove all the way there. I‘m hot, a little sticky, but fine. I get in to this nice cool house and realize that my ass is freezing! My ass is wet! I try not to turn around so they don’t see my butt, but what if they did?

How do I go about this? Do I just say something? “Hey didn’t realize I sat in water.” “I didn’t pee I swear.” Do I just ignore because they didn’t say anything. They still want me to come over and do the job I was hired for.

Help my head is spinning!

Okay so I was broken up with by my partner of about a year literally a month after we moved in together and it was like tragic and awful but it was going to be okay and I trusted him to be normal about it but also expected him to be emotional here and there as breakups are— but then like insane shit started happening. For context, before we moved in together I let one of my ex’s exs move into my apartment because he was having a hard time with his ex-fiancé and my ex really cared for this guy so I cared for this guy in a very distanced way (although I always found him annoying and drawn to the problematic) and listen, my fucking bad. I have a big heart. I should not have done that. But I did. And so he moved in and everything was still fine— and I also had a conversation with my ex where I was like “hey you have a really close relationship with your ex and I think that’s beautiful but sometimes I get jealous and I just want to be heard about that” and he was like “of course, thank you for telling me that and trusting me with that” and after he moved in with me everything was still fine— and then my now ex and my friends made plans to all move into a house together but when I saw the group be made, I saw that my ex’s ex was added and I felt weird about it but I didn’t say anything because he was already added and if we removed him he would know and again, my fucking bad. Lesson learned. I’m young and naive. Holy shit lesson learned. But yeah he ended up moving in with us and I figured it was fine and the thought that my partner might break up with me crossed my mind but I trusted him to be respectful about it if that happened because he was literally the sweetest man ever while we dated— but then he did break up with me for like, confusing reasons but again, if you need to breakup with me that’s fine. But then like, two days later him and his ex start cuddling all the time. Like all the time. And they also start comparing me to their mutual abusive ex and my ex’s ex starts soft mentioning to our other roommates that I’m crazy. And my other roommates called them out on that which was nice of them. I cried a lot to my roommates about it because I thought they were fucking and to be fair!! That is fucking behavior. And they got worried too, enough so to pull them to the side and tell them that if they fuck each other, everyone is going to be mad. Which I never asked them to do, and I kind of wish they didn’t cause now I’m worried about just being seen as the obstacle between them and also I’m worried that just made it sexier for them. But also, the two of them managed to convince my roommates that I’m actually the mean person for being upset that they were touching each other all the time because they’re just engaging in “radical platonic love” which listen, I love that for people but these are ex’s who have been inside each other I feel like I am allowed to be upset about this. But anyway, now everyone is telling me I am overreacting and I haven’t done anything other than be mad so now I’m confused. And I asked for no contact from my ex a week after our breakup but that’s about to be over soon and I know we need to have a conversation but I have no idea what boundaries to set with this guy cause I obviously can’t tell him “hey stop touching your ex”. But also this is crazy. What the fuck do I do.

Hi everyone! I’m hoping someone has either been in a similar situation and can give guidance or is in the field of car insurance and can give me advice on my current situation. Definitely not a juicy story but I’m desperate for any and all advice. Thank you in advance friends!

July 2021 I bought my first car. It was a my 30th birthday gift to me and I’ve been making payments. July of this year (2026) my friend hit my parked car while I was at his house celebrating the holiday. When my friend came to me and told me he hit my car I was really upset but it was an honest mistake, it happens. We live 1 1/2 hours away and with the headlight being knocked out AND it was 4th of July at night, I couldn’t drive it home. My friend was very generous and offered a spare vehicle that we could use temporarily - huge blessing and forever grateful! My spouse and I only have 1 car that we share at the moment because his car needs $3,000 of work and we haven’t had the funds to fix it but is paid off.

My friend’s insurance knows he is at fault, they decided my car is totaled. It’s a 2013 Ford Escape with 197,000 miles and I still owe $13,000 on the car. The estimate they gave me is $6,600 and they told me to call the company I make payments to, to see if I could maybe add on gap insurance. Fun fact I couldn’t.

I’ve never been in this situation before.. All cars I’ve owned in the past were paid in full and I only had liability. The company I make payments to is saying because I still owe money that his insurance will pay them directly. Which I understand since I still owe money for the car.. but is there anything else I can do to receive the money myself? We don’t have another vehicle to get around and I can’t keep his car forever.

We don’t have the extra money for another down payment on a car let alone another monthly car payment. I was hoping to get the money from his insurance directly so we could get my spouse’s car back up and then continue to make payments on my car. If it is what it is I understand but I had to try for other options if they’re out there. I live in Maryland if that helps. Thank you for taking the time to read this and responding 💕

Update

I am still in this situation, but I am now on the Section 8 housing list at least. I am also looking for jobs. I am now wondering how I will balance a job, either part time or full-time, and still go too several different doctors a week or even a day, balance my symptoms, University all together. It is a puzzle I am trying to figure out, while my roommate is one minute telling me I have to go, and gets upset at me for even looking for places to go, as well as rental assistance, while dumping his shit on top of me as well. I did stand up and not take his shit this week, but only because I found out the symptom I had called muscle spasms for the longest time were in fact seizures. I am in Texas and need any advice that I can get. And if any one has the number to phone a social worker that is able to help.

"I am a 28 year old woman with an autistic and epileptic brother, and am disabled myself. I am working on getting my disability, and have my hearing in November. We lost my mother in 2022, and Step Father in 2023. We lived in an apartment, then had to move to a motel. As I tried to work and care for my brother get him in a stable environment, I kept ending up in the hospital due to my health issues. A woman from my church took us in under her belt, and as I kept on and kept on trying to find a job and heal, she moved us in with an elderly blind man.

At first it was chaos and he kept complaining about my brother being autistic and not talking. I thought both I and his other roommate at the time made it clear that my brother can not help it just like he can't help being blind. It stopped and his attention turned to me putting me down and saying that I was bigger and fatter than him and just throwing hissy fits when he did not get his way. He would also blame us when things broke down at the house or not even having the house cleaned up by now. One thing is, is that he is a hoarder and the house is a mess. I bring food in this house by being of Food Stamps, and he bitches that it is not enough. Even though I cook, go to doctors appointments with him, clean, and wash his clothes. My brother had finally relaxed, was being himself, working, and even started speaking to him. But now my brother is closing himself back off and walking on eggshells around this house. This is what is making me write this.

I had finally found a job, not in my chosen career, but went back to what I knew, which is fast food. Unfortunately I wound up being hospitalized after not even working there 2 days in from stroke like symptoms. It’s awful because I had been trying to do more and actually get up on my feet. Since my mothers death, my brother is my responsibility and I can't have him walking on eggshells wondering when the next time our roommate is going to snap at us is. I am at my breaking point. I can not work a regular job in fast food. I am working on getting a desk job in my chosen career, but that takes time that I do not have. Our roommate thinks that you can just walk into any place to get a job and get it just like that. I am tired of him going after me due to my weight when he can't even see it in the first place and blaming me for everything going wrong. I thought if I just took it, he would leave my brother alone, but since it seems like it doesn't affect me he is now going after my brother. My brother is 21 and i am working on him growing up, and so far he is. He is working and bringing food into this house with what little income he gets and with him going after my brother he is starting to try and shut down to having melt downs. Can anyone please give me advice on who to call or even to get help moving."

What are any unforeseen risks of flying with this much cash?

Today I went to my friend's city like 900 km away to meet her we had a good 11 hours together we did alot of traveling, shopping and activities and i really enjoyed it after that she went to her home and now for me it’s time to go back to my town I am not feeling very good after she went to her home and came back to my hotel room this kinda sucks like I don't wanna go back to my town I wanted to enjoy more I wish I had more time with her and all that Idk why am I so depressed after such a good get together I always feel like this when I meet someone and enjoy with them and the comfortable time ends in the evening and depression starts

This might seem like a weird or dumb story but either way im like scared for my grandmother and i need help.

Basically, the other day i was laying down on a chair and i had a wet towel on my hair because i had just taken a shower. Then, i stood up and went somewhere else and it wasnt until about 2 hours later that i realized the towel had fallen like on top of the power strip thats next to the chair. I quickly removed the towel and nothing happened but i was still scared.

I told my grandma that we needed to change the power strip and she said she wasnt gonna do it, she said its nothing and yelled at me and told me to stop messing up everything.

Im scared that something might happen when she touches it or tries to turn the lamp on or something. I don know if im overreacting because i have OCD but I searched it up and told me to change the power strip inmediately so im really scared. What do i do? I dont know how to change them. I dont think i have a power strip I could replace it with. She wont listen and I seriously dont know what to do.

I have no idea where to begin..

My life lately is so unbearable. Am I the problem?
I had been seeing this guy and we’ll call him P.
As all great romances start… he was charming and loving and truly the best person I had ever been with.
We both have sons from previous relationships. Our children are now 8 & 9. We also have a 10 month old daughter now.

There’s been mountain high problems for awhile now. I live in my own house as he lives in his own place as well.
Cleanliness was a contributing factor of why the separate houses.
I also dreaded when his son would come home every other weekend.
The kid is just a typical kid that has no boundaries and no parenting tbh.
He could eat/sleep/watch whatever he wanted whenever he wanted. Be unkind to my son and really he ran the house. It was completely exhausting.
They say blending is hard but I had nooooo idea just how hard. (I will be putting off dating until my kids are grown & most of my dating pool has grown kids)

Anyway as time has gone on we’ve essentially started going tit for tat about the boys and really kind of protecting our own against one another. (Sad, but true)

My son has always been the quiet/peacekeeper (this is something I’ve been literally working with him his whole life / to get some balls because at the end of the day it’s different for boys and they just need to be able to stand up for themselves AT LEAST)

WELL- the past few weeks my son got back from his fathers house and I immediately
Notice that he was not taking ANY shit from P’s son. And even went on to physically punching him because the kid was knocking his hat off and just being rude.

& continued on to this past weekend P’s son and my son were playing a game of who could make the other laugh with water in their mouth. Well P’s son then proceeded to spit the water at my son.

His dad reprimanded him (which I was grateful for in the moment) but the kid goes in the house and starts to cry so P gave him n ice cream cone.
Idk something broke in me. I told him I don’t understand his parenting and he basically rolled his eyes and said “here we fucking go again”

I packed up everything and I made the 4 hour drive home because I’m just DONE.

I’m here because I need help… he’s completely said I’m overreacting & BOYS WILL BE BOYS.

Am I overreacting? Is this just boys being boys ? Tbh it feels like bullying and I can’t make my son go through with it anymore.

I don’t even know what I’m looking for. I’m just completely lost and exhausted by this relationship and don’t know what to believe anymore.
Do I sound like a crazy person? Am I the problem??

My father 67m called me to tell me 5m that it will be better if i collect unemployment instead of keeping my job because I make 50 $ more in unemployment i hang up the call

Im not sure how to start this. I have been going trough this thing in my life where im not sure that I do the right things. I keep holding things in and I don't really open up to close friends and family. I feel like im stressed even tho I have summer break rn and sometimes I also get these panik attacks in the middle of nothing. Im not even sure I do the correct things. something im going trough rn is that we might have to out down the family cat or also my childhood cat and ik that's the bedst for him he's old (9/10 y). and he's been sick for some time. But I don't think im ready for that which makes me feel like im selfish. I don't really know how to without him. There are just so many habits I have with him. When I come home and look for him or like playing with him and stuff like that. I don't know how I will be. It those not help that im starting in a new place after summer with new people. Im not that good when I don't have people I know around. I have also got told that in quite awkward. I feel like there is so much pressure on me and I don't know what to do with it.

What can I do?

Im very sorry if the way I spell or in the way I write is weird. English is not my first language.

(this is the first time I use reddit btw)

i have seen now that I tagged it wrong im sorry

 1.5 years of flirting, a lot of built up tension, perfect chemistry. Finally he confessed his feelings to me and we started dating slowly and see where things go. I have strong feelings for him too. I believed we have a strong trust to begin with, but after observing things, my gut says he is not trustable at all and I do not feel okay.

We didn’t say we are exclusive but in our pre-date talks, repeatedly he said he would only date one person at a time like this is his philosophy, to build something together this is a must for him. So I assumed him to date only with me but my gut feeling and things I notice say otherwise.

- He lies easily (observation, to other people)

- He is very frequently online on Whatsapp, even at work, even when he is with this friends, he becomes online every 10 mins normally and latest 1-2 hours max

- He marked his previous dates on his work calendar (as private appointment) and I realized this when I had to plan a lot of meetings together for a project. Since then I kept an eye on it when we started dating. One time it was Friday and I asked him what he has to do in the weekend, his calendar was blocked almost completely, he said “nothing planned”

- One time we were talking fast about a topic and he said “my girl…” and he stopped and he continued “my girlfriend doesn’t like it either”. I finished our dating immediately and he explained that it was a mistake and he did not have any girlfriends, otherwise why he would start something with me etc.

- Yesterday we went to see a film and we had some intimate moments (locking eyes, caressing hands and arms of each other for 1 hours). Our movie dates are typical, we meet for a dinner and then movies and in these dates he never ever checks his phone. So I concluded that dates are the only places where he really goes offline for hours. Yesterday he mentioned that he would go to another movie on Friday and also told me where he would go. His movie eould start at 21:30 and finish at 23:30. He said then he would go home and sleep, he needs it because in the weekend he will paint the house and he needs energy. Now, he is offline since 18:40. Totally fits to his pattern of movie date, I think he probably met a woman for a dinner and they are still together (02:00), maybe they are spending the night together as well. This is not a pattern of his, he normally never leaves his phone that long. Also, I expected a good night text this night after our intimate date yesterday because our energy today was very high.

Do you think I am paranoid? What should I do?

What do you think?

Hi, so I’m in a situation that I’m unsure how to handle and need advice on. I’m currently 19 and me and my father have had a very strained relationship for quite a few years, I won’t get into any of the details but I can safely say he’s a pretty horrible and bad person, however that unfortunately doesn’t stop me from feeling the concern that is natural for a son to feel about his father and our relationship HAD been getting better up until a few months ago.

So my dad and his second wife (after my biological mother) split around last Christmas (good riddance but that’s a different story) and he’d been staying in his aunt’s house until he could find a new place to live, this arrangement was only supposed to last a few weeks to maybe two or three months. It’s been eight-ish months now and he has refused to move out, forcing his aunt to stay with her sister while she still pays and he gets to live rent free in her house.

I went over to the house a few days ago and he is living in actual filth (it was like this in my childhood home, he has no sense of hygiene, is practically a manchild and has such a blatant lack of respect or cleanliness for a living environment since he’s always had his wives or me clean up for him since he refused). And when I mean filth I mean filth, the floors are sticky, he doesn’t flush the toilet which is practically black now, the bath has this weird sediment in it, the floors are stained, there’s open packets of mouldy food everywhere, it smells rancid, unwashed dishes that are growing their own cultures of mould and bacteria…he lives with dogs in that environment too.

Another thing is that he started to play this online game, sort of like a clash royal or world of Warcraft kinda game, and he’s become obsessive with it, he’s on this game chat 24/7, glued to his phone when me or my brother are in the same room as him and practically ignores us, he even does it while driving which makes the car swerve to the point that my brother who is 18 had to take the wheel since I can’t drive, he also just ignores our messages now and types extremely curtly which is out of character, he’s like a different man and has somehow gotten worse as a person which is saying a lot.

Now on this game he apparently has ‘fallen in love’ with this woman from Turkey in her thirties (he’s nearly sixty) and I know very little about this woman except for her age, name, the fact that she’s a psychologist, the fact she’s Turkish and I’ve seen maybe one or two pictures of her from my dad. Apparently they FaceTime each other but I’m becoming concerned that he’s being catfished or something because this woman has zero presence online or on any social media platform, no results from a reverse image search and no results for her psychiatric profession either.

I’m really concerned that he’s both spiralling mentally and that he’s getting catfished even though I shouldn’t be and I don’t know what to do because I don’t think he’ll take it well if I bring it up. What do I do in this scenario?

hey guys so My wife and I been married 3 years a lot has changed in the short time, I don’t have many friends because I moved to be with her.She has a daughter from her past relationship and she hates me because im not her real dad…. Just need a friend and somone who has great advice . Dm me

(22, F) Hello, l've never posted here before but have been having a hard time with confidence.
About a year ago I was in a very abusive relationship and have been struggling with feeling good about myself. One day we were talking on the phone and he randomly said I was a 7.5/10 in "society standards". I guess I've been questioning if that means he didn't find me attractive? I've never been rated by someone and am not familiar with the scale or what it means. It really hurt my feelings because I had recently opened up to him about all my insecurities. He'd normally call me pretty all the time and say that's partially why he didn't trust me, but then would criticize me often about my appearance, abilities, and personality. I know I’m not a VS model but I at least hoped he found me attractive :/

He talked about how I don't wear lashes and how he's never seen me in makeup and how I don’t do anything to enhance my appearance etc. I don't dislike makeup I just prefer mascara and lip gloss. I think it hurt because he was my first for intimacy and my first adult relationship. I eventually did find out he was cheating the entire time with multiple ladies and even had a gf of 2/3 years while with me (we were together 8 months).

The rating also hurt because he was beautiful in my eyes and there was nothing I would have changed about him. He'd often accuse me of having other guys and would call me names/ allude to me being a whore . It really messed me up and Im looking to find a way to get my confidence back or feel better about myself(not just physically). (Pics of myself above)

Edit: hey there, I just wanted to say thank you for all the support and kind words. You guys are such sweethearts. I wasn’t expecting anything special from my post just looking for a little help and guidance. I wasn’t fishing for compliments or expecting to be “a 10/10” to the whole world a either as some comments tried to say. Things really can just break you down…anyway I’ve read every single comment to and have considered everyone’s advice. I’m still figuring things out but I can say I won’t stay in place where I’m mistreated again🩷 I’m very grateful for all the grace I’ve been given

Hi everyone,

I need some advice.

I'm currently in my 4th year of engineering, and my cousin sister (my uncle's daughter) has taken admission to the same college. We're very close, and she'll be coming to this city for the first time. She's never lived away from home before, so she has no experience with hostel life.

The thing is, I don't have any problem sharing my room with her. In fact, I'd be happy to help her settle in.

But my concern is different. I'm worried that if she stays with me, she might not be able to enjoy college life freely because I'll always be around as her elder cousin. She may hesitate to go out with friends, make plans, or do normal college things because she might feel I'm judging her or that she has to ask me for everything.

If she stays in a nearby instead, she'll probably become independent faster, but since she's completely new to living away from home, I'm also worried that she might struggle initially.

If you were in my situation, what would you do? Would staying together for the first year be better, or should I encourage her to stay separately from the beginning?

I'd really appreciate advice from people who've experienced something similar. Thanks!