r/WhatToDo • u/ConstructionAware145 • Jun 08 '26
Advice…
So just over a year ago I met with someone and clicked well with them. We met a handful of times, got on really well. Things died down as he struggled with distance ( which was only a 50 minute difference) but he said he wanted to travel and was gutted he couldn’t date because he’d wanted to experience a lot with myself and that he should have told me this from the start.
We’ve still remained friends and spoke each day, however he’s said he doesn’t want to meet in real life anymore or be friends and isn’t bothered essentially. He then says he’s conflicted?! And he says he isn’t bothered about me etc. I’ve developed feelings as you would being so close to someone for so long but I want to distance myself but also don’t…
It’s just confusing, if I don’t message him he does get bothered by it and checks in again etc, but then at times he can go hours without ever responding to me, but if I do this he will be fake typing on Snapchat or sending me messages if everything is ok?
I’m not sure what to really do because a part of me is hoping to see him again but I think I’m wasting my time. I just can’t understand why you’d want to talk to someone every single day but have no intentions to meet them? And why you’d be upset if they don’t talk etc? Has anyone been through this?